this guy knew from the start that I had no intentions on getting with him. now he is blaming me for his life being so bad because he was hoping that I would have falling for him. I'm sorry but I only saw dollar signs and that has always been the arraingment between us. if he did not have no money i would not spend no time with him. do you think that i led him on? I was always honest and told him to make sure he was dating other women that would care for him the way he wanted. he stated this situation and now he wants me to change sorry i have no feelings for him.
2006-12-21 03:17:54 · 15 answers · asked by Cowgirl Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats the spirit
2006-12-21 03:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. I have the same situation for the past 8 yrs. Not so much that I hang with him for $$ but because we have a great time, great sex and he treats me good. He too seems to be waiting no matter what I say. I have told him numerous times that we would not end up married but he still thinks we will. I feel Ive done my part in being honest and if he chooses to hope for that its his choice. People tell me its more my responsibility because he loves me and cant make the choice to never see me again. I say how come its my fault if I'm honest with him ? Does any man think its his responsibility when he hurts me ?
2006-12-21 03:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are leading him on, and it's not fair. He must really like you if he was hoping that you would fall for him, and even if he knew the arrangements, he obviously wanted you to be for real. You can't lead him on like this! You're spending time with him for money? Money doesn't buy you happiness, seriously.
Would you rather be sleeping with a guy and getting everything you think you wanted, or with a family to love and care for, to love someone and be loved back?
You need to break off the arrangement, it's not fair for either of you. Tell him you're not the one for him, and however he feels about you, it's not the way you feel for him, and nothing is going to change that.
If you carry on like this, you're seriously going to regret it later. Twelve years is too long, but it has to stop.
Good Luck! x
2006-12-21 03:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a woman, I could say some negative things about your behavior. Some women might give you props for workin' it and workin' him while others will call you vulgar names. But in the end it is YOU that must look yourself in the mirror everyday and choose if what you have done is morally correct or if it goes against your values. I personally find it wrong to sleep with someone just because they have money. At least you were honest with him but an honest gold digger is still just a gold digger. I am not trying to judge you and put you down so don't take me wrong. It is not for me to judge who you are and what you do. But I think in all fairness to this man that you should break it off with him for his own sake.
2006-12-21 03:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, He probably did think that you actually liked him and hoped that it was growing into more than that.
This is why he is blaming you for his misery, By guilting you he hopes to be able to draw you back.
You probably stretched it a bit long (12 years) to not expect attachment.
If it's a money issue, and that's all you get from it, in the future, make it more clear in the begining that you are a sex worker.
Time heals
2006-12-21 03:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could have been him once upon a time.
I am male and therefore stupid in the ways of women (that's all i will admit to). I married a lady and thought we were going to start a family right away but she wanted to wait. after 5 years she said she didn't want kids and never did. only married me to get away from her father. I didn't divorce her because I thought I could change her mind. Never happened and we were married for 14 years. Because of this I have to pay her 1/2 of my military retirement.
2006-12-21 03:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have any feelings for him. You need to move away and leave a note. There is nothing for you here. You did the right choice giving up your feelings for him. But, there is one thing you always have to remember. Listen to your heart.
2006-12-21 03:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r story is just like u...it is a completely waste in reading...i think u can sell ur self to somebody and ull get what u want..leave him alone...
2006-12-21 03:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by jaishankar4202002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called prostituting yourself. Having sex for money is just that.
2006-12-21 03:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by phgl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send me your Resume
2006-12-21 03:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋