Just leave it alone for now, Im 25 now but when i was around your age 17-18 my mom didnt want me to have piercings or even dye my hair. I would get so upset for nothing. When i left it alone my mom came around and agreed that i could pierce my ears 3 times and dye my hair. she will come around, if u keep bothering her she will never allow it. your under her roof so u have to listen to her rules, it sucks but its worth it.
2006-12-21 05:34:58
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm neither a kid nor am I a parent. (Yeah, it's possible!). But I was a kid once. And my opinion is:
There are lots of things that you may do now that you have reached 18. This doesn't mean that you are ready for all of them. Personally I don't think it is a big deal and if I were your parent, I'd give my opinion but wouldn't fight someone who wants two holes in each ear. Life is too short and you have to pick your battles.
Given the relative importance of this issue (no life or death at stake here and there really are other issues in life that outrank getting a hole put in your ear) and if you intend to remain living at home even though you can legally live on your own and make your own decisions, and if your parents are paying for your support and you value that, then why not forget the other hole for now in the interest of family peace?
If you are bound and determined to use this issue as a way to assert your newly acquired adult status, be aware that you may pay for it in the hassles that it causes. As I said above, you'd be wise to pick your battles and this may not be worth the fight.
2006-12-21 03:34:02
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answered by Kraftee 7
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As a teen not too long ago myself (who also wanted more piercings in my ear) I would say it is not worth the argument. I would wait until you are out of the house.
The way I look at it (and did then as well) is that having 2 holes in my ear isn't that big of a deal. Who cares if you have 1 hole in each or 2. it's just a fashion thing. And the amount of stress it might cause at home will definitely outweigh the pleasure that you might have from having the 2 holes in your ears.
That's just how I see it... good luck!
2006-12-21 03:18:59
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answered by PT&L 4
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well, a lot of it depends on your life situation.... if you're living at home with ur mom an dad (or just mom....) then it's her house... her rules. when you live by yourself, it's your rules......
personally, i think that a second hole is fine, i got my second holes at about 11 years old.... but my grandmother was my beauty operator, and my mom was the technician..... i also, don't have any tats or other peircings..... just those.
she might be scared that youl'll wanna go too far with it, and get more and more until you've altered your body too much... she just loves you, and doesn't want you to do anything you'll regret.
maybe if you sit down and have an adult conversation with her, woman to woman, then she might be a little more accepting. show her that you're making an adult decision, and that it would make you feel good about yourself to have two holes in your ears. all mothers want their daughters to feel good about themselfs. but arguing with her isn't an adult conversation, and arguing doesn't prove or fix anything, at the least, it will make her risist even more. if she says no, then wait a month or so. then ask her nicely again. if she still says no, and you're not willing to live with it, then i'd start looking for an apartment of your own.
good luck, and don't let it come between you and your mom, its a silly reason.... :) have a good day!!
2006-12-21 03:22:11
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answered by Silver Thunderbird 6
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I'm a parent of 4 kids...ages 22, 19, 18 & 10. I wouldn't have a problem with my girls getting a 2nd ear piercing but I do have a problem with them getting any other facial or body piercings. Only because when you get older, your skin looses elasticity and will begin to sag. Piercings in the lips, nose, eyebrows, etc. will look awful when you're older.
If my daughters came home with a piercing that I asked them not to get, I would accept it for what it is. I would not like it, but they are adults.
In your case, I guess it would depend on how much your mom will freak out and if you can handle it.
2006-12-21 03:24:00
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answered by Jane 4
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First, what are her reasons for not letting you? Maybe she doesn't think it would look nice? I had my ears pierced as a kid, but closed up cuz I had problems. I got them redone at 13 with mom's permission, and got 2nd holes at 16. My mom is strict, but she said ok both times. She only had one hole in each ear at the time, and now she has three!
It's not the end of the world if you have to wait. It's not worth arguing about, or getting in trouble for. Doing it just because you are old enough to on your own, against your parent's wishes, will just create a problem with your mom not being able to trust you in the future. Drop the subject, and maybe later she could always change her mind.
2006-12-21 03:25:57
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answered by angelbaby 7
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well you are 18 already and really don't need parent consult and if your mother have the second ear pierce already then why is she arguing with you? I am 17 and have5 piercing on my ears 1 belly piercing and 1 tattoo that i just got this month. Once you get the piercing she cant say nothing. she cant make you take them of. but you should always respect your parents.And you may your own bills and help paying bills at home then just go ahead and get it!!
2006-12-21 05:11:23
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answered by edespoux 1
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I'm a parent of 3 daughters, and I believe if you're 18, you should get whatever you feel you like done. If my daughters asked for ear piercings, I would say ok,as many as they want anywhere in there ear, but anywhere else on there body, they should wait until they're 18 to decide something like that.
2006-12-21 03:29:01
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answered by lilmama 4
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Maybe there is a reason why your mum said no to u as she has two holes in each ear.Ask her in a manner that doesnt hurt her feelings and yours too.Tell her that you want her answer so that you understand what she really wants to send the message to you.Maybe after piercing you will feel the pain or maybe you wants to have another hole just to follow the trend..Anyway,18 is not really consider you have the right to do what you wants.Remember you are getting your pocket money from your money or even if you are working part time you are paying the bills..
2006-12-21 03:23:35
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answered by irah_miti 1
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When I got my second holes, I did it myself at age 14 because my mom wouldn't allow it (which is why I would never tell my kids no on something so foolishly unimportant). It took her two weeks to even notice, and she freaked out. She yelled at me, said "What will your dad think?" I said that I would agree to take them out if it bothered him...she called him and he didn't even care.
I'd ask why they are so concerned, and see why it concerns them. Maybe they think that if you start with a second hole, you'll be getting labrets before you know it! Then tattoos and next thing you know, you're a crack addict on the streets. For real though, it depends on your relationship. Do you enjoy their approval? Do you want to show respect? And in the end, you can do it when you go to college or get your own place. You can also get the magnetic or sticky back types, which would be so funny, to show up with those all over...
2006-12-21 03:34:45
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answered by ? 6
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If you live at home, you should respect your parents wishes, regardless of whatever the issue at hand is. It's not worth arguing or causing strife over. You've waited this long, what's a little while longer? My oldest daughter wanted her tongue pierced - she waited until she moved out and had it done the first day! I still don't like it, but I do appreciate the fact that she had enough respect for me to wait until she moved out to get it done. The real issue isn't about Control or even whether or not your mom agrees with you - the REAL issue is whether or not you RESPECT her enough to comply with her house rules while she is providing for you. Even if you live with your parents as an adult, you owe them respect for their house rules. Trust me - you will expect the same from them and anybody else who comes to your home when you get a place of your own.
2006-12-21 03:32:34
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answered by Romans 8:28 5
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