What does a girl mean when they say "Give me time, i will be back"?

Question

Currently me and my girlfriend have been dating and together for 2 years, but until recently i find out she acting different to me, e.g. say i love u to her, she just say maybe, i don't know. And find out she go football with another male friend and clubing with this male friend. (she also easy to angry with me and not want to go out) Later she told me she is confuse with something that i cannot help her and tell me to give her time.

Then few days later, she finally told me what she confuse at. She told me that she don't know why, her heart is love me, but her mind like the other male friend. Then few day later, i told her how i feel and say, i truely love her, and i will forgive and forget what ever happen, as long we rebuild our relationship and forget that guy. I told her if we not mean to each other, then it is the end of our relationship. But then she told me "i understand u, and know what u mean, just give me time, i will be back". So what does it mean? Any idea?

now at the moment, we still havn't break up yet, but... when i see her next day or so, she act normal, and sometime she be very warm to me, like holding my hands, kiss me and etc, sometime she just be cold to me again, that her tones sound different. But she still call me honey all the time and, she already plan out where to go shopping with me and when to have dinner with my family over xmas and when to do homework with me.

So atm i don't really know what to do. I don't mind break up, but...she just hot and cold to me, very hard to predicted, so i not sure what's going to happen. Any idea?

Answer 1

That means that she is going to go do her thing with the other guy that she likes, and she knows that you will be there waiting for her when she gets bored of him, so she never has to worry about being alone. She doesn't love you. I'm sorry. I would let her go. No one should be treated that way :(

Answer 2

By the time they are three or four. This little girl at church was having a birthday party and because her best friend was there, her cousin was also at church with them that day, she told her cousin that her best friend was coming to the party and she wasn't. Now, of course the cousin still got invited to the party and they had a ball but the mean girl mentality normally starts with singling others out to become friends with a more popular group. I would teach my kids that all kids go through a stage like that, boy or girl, and that they need to not pick their friends because of who will make them more popular but for who is the good friend. And if my daughter turned out to be a mean girl then I'd sit down with her and have a chat about it but if the behavior continues then I'd probably do more about it. No one likes a mean girl; not even another mean girl.

Answer 3

She is doing what gamblers call "hedging her bets." If she goes out with the other guy, and it works out, she wins the bet, and you'll never see her again. If she crashes and burns with him, she loses, but she has faithful, secure Peter J waiting around as a consolation prize. Not a comforting thought, is it?

Let her go on her way, but make it CRYSTAL clear that you're not going to wait around to be anybody's backup. After the split, leave her alone - no calls, emails, texting or hanging out. If you spoil her backup plan, the prospect of losing you permanently might shock her into realizing what she's giving up. If not, you'll start dating again, eventually, which might also bring her back to reality. Only one way to find out. But if she stays gone, so be it. You'll be better off, either way.

Answer 4

She wants to keep you hanging on while she finds out if this other guy is worth holding onto. She wants to play and wants you to step back. Do you want to be considered 2nd best? You should be #1 and even if shes friends w/this guy she should still always consider your feelings. She tells you this so if it doesnt workout she can come back to you. She cant have her cake and eat her pie at the same time so you need to let go and find someone else to go have a good time w/.

Answer 5

Oh man... not good. I would say that she does need a lot of time to not only figure you guys out but also herself. I would not be rude to her but I would not wait around for her 4ever. If you love her than wait as long as you want but you have to be true to yourself. What if the tables where turned... would she wait for you?? The answer to that question should tell you what to do in your heart and mind. Good Luck and just know that love is a very special gift to give and do not give it to someone who does not want or deserve it!!

Answer 6

It means she is very confused and needs to not be with you to work out her issues. Trust me (I know first hand) if you push your way into staying with her then she will hurt you like you can't believe. Its the case where someone knows they need to work stuff out and don't want you to get caught in the middle risking hurting you. Let her go and if she means she will come back then she will, some day. Which means don't wait for her to live your life.

Answer 7

Give it up with her. You are both young and there will always be others but if she isn't willing to give up the "others" she isn't worthy of having you who truly loves her. You are young enough to allow her freedom to find herself and also find youself. When the proper time comes you will know it and I hope for you sake that you aren't thinking she is the "one". You will know it when it happens. She may break your heart but you will get over it and go on. I wish you Good Luck and happiness!

Answer 8

this might not be what you want to hear but, she is trying something different. she likes you alright, but she also like this other guy, as you said, so she might want to try a relationship with him. she is in a situation where she really likes both guys, i would assume you and this other guy are pretty different. thats why she cant let go either one of you. one satified one side of her the other does the other side of her. if all doesnt work out, she still loves you.

Answer 9

It means she wants to go out and have her fun while you wait and hope that she comes back. Odds are that if things don't work out with this other guy, then she will be back. Only until the next guy comes along. Leave her.

Answer 10

i dont want to sound harsh but it sounds like she ischeating on you! and i know that it will hurt you cause i recently went through a cheating thing. but what you have to do is just ask her and tell her that you want to be honest and you want to be honest with you! either that or theres something bothering her and she doesnt want to tell you so she tries to hide it by going out! but really the man thing is just come out and tell her that she needs to tell you now if she is seeing another guy. and if you keep pushing and pushing then she will finally break!