I'm aware you don't have trust, no sense in wasting any more of my time, but for some reason its been 7 weeks and I want to talk to these other girls. For the past 9 months these girls are supposed to be "out of the picture" but in a matter of max 3 weeks all the girls from the past are back... I'm just beating myself up to how much my eyes were closed but he still swears he hasn't talked to these girls while we were together, of course I don't believe him and I want to call the girls I guess to verify his story or maybe just see how much more of a liar he is?
2006-12-21 03:02:29 · 33 answers · asked by truthful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't bother. If he's really that much of a scumbag, they will learn that on their own in time and if not, then they are apparently too naive and should be with someone like that. You should just count yourself as lucky that you no longer have to deal with him and you must also realize that by intervening and talking to these girls that all it will do is probably cause a lot of unnecessary drama. I could see him very likely manipulating them to think that you are just the 'crazy ex' trying to woo him back and that they'll buy it resulting with you looking bad and most likely gaining a bad reputation. Let his own actions speak for themselves and do the best thing you can do to get payback to him and do good for yourself, and move on. I was married young (18) and divorced this year at (23) and my ex cheated on me left and right. After our separating he wasted no time to move in with some girl who he tried to cheat on me with and so many times I wanted to tell her just to get back at him for all of the pain and just bullsh*t he had put me through but I didn't because I realized that I was better then him and didn't need to dwell on someone like that because he was a loser and just was not worth the effort. I think you need to realize what a scumbag this guy is and that you are better then him, which is why you should not sink to his level. Give yourself some time to get over any emotions or heartache and keep your distance from him so that you can...You will be grateful later on that you didn't do anything and will most likely realize what a mistake it would've been. Take care and good luck:)
2006-12-21 03:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, Why do I want to waste my time and energy on a know liar? I believe you have alot to offer. Maybe it is time to get out of this circle of feeling like a victim. Being the holiday season, maybe you should concentrate on sharing fun with friends and maybe you might meet someone who will appreciate and be honest with you. I hope you don't waste another second worry about things you can't change. Look to the New Year with zest.
Good Luck and happy holidays.
2006-12-21 03:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation. You're right, it's natural to be curious, but it won't do you any good anyway. You already know he's a liar, end of story. Just be done with him. If you inquire about him, they'll just think you're his jealous ex who wants to get back with him. As hard as it is, do yourself a favor and just forget about him and whatever he is or isn't doing. Either those girls are just like him, or they will eventually learn and come to their senses too. There's no reason for you to get involved if you guys are already through.
2006-12-21 03:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee that however you're feeling now, after talking to any of them, you'll feel worse. Do something to take your mind off it. It'll be hard for a while. You'll find your mind going over there. But in time, the anger will subside and eventually, you'll hardly care. Don't make it a bigger deal than it already is. It'll just be that much harder to move on.
2006-12-21 03:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he is a womanizer why waste your time with him. Talking to the other girls will only bring you frustration. You better of without this much stress. Good luck.
2006-12-21 03:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would try to put it behind me. You guys broke up and you know the saying, "what you don't know, won't hurt you". Not to be totally blind sided but its over and you don't need to know what he's up to, or was doing. Unless you're trying to get back with him. I think if you were still dating then I would try to find out what he's doing behind my back. But its over now.
On the other hand, if you are planning to get back with him. Then yes, verify with the other girls his story. If he is a liar, don't ever mess with him again.
2006-12-21 03:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by na5nica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's over,it's over!Let it be,he has the right to speak to whom ever he wishes,and you are just torturing yourself!And if you have this many doubts about this guy,and think he was talking to these girls while he was w/ you,he probably was,he sounds like a dog!Why not do yourself a favor and move on,instead of calling people and making yourself look like a fool!
2006-12-21 03:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a liar (most men are) but he's your ex's. He doesn't have to tell you the truth. Go out find someone to hang out to keep you busy and not think of your ex. You call these girls and they ask who are you and you say his ex they will hang up on you and nothing will change.
2006-12-21 03:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by C M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking into the past. Go on w/ ur life. Life is too short to waste it on an old relationship
2006-12-21 03:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by fldrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting time wondering who the ex talks to. There are other people in the world to talk to besides him.
2006-12-21 03:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋