My ex broke up with me 5 days ago. We planned that i go to his parents place for the break b/c i dont have a home of my own(and he told me to buy the ticket, which i did). After we broke up, he told me i still should come since he doesnt want me to be out on the street(since my dorm is closed). Tonight I flew to nyc, nobody was there to pick me up. His phone was off. I took the shuttle to his place and called a mutual friend Tom to pick me up at the shuttle station. Tom and i just went over to his place. He said he doesnt want me there and his parents acted very cold too. So here i am at tom's place b/c i have nowhere to go. My ex used every excuse to say that i shouldnt have come even after he told me i still should and his phone was acting up and his network was bad so he didnt see my email asking if anyone would pick me up or if not what kind of transportation should i use(this is my 1st time to take a shuttle to ct after all).Now i just feel they're not even decent people;i hate'em
2006-12-21 03:01:37 · 21 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a terribly cold/horrible thing to do to a person. You have every right to be angry.
Eventually overtime you will be okay though...once you dont care about him anymore all will be forgiven.
2006-12-21 03:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry. You have every right to be angry. Is there anyway you could get home to your parents/family etc? Being a student you probably do not have the funds to go out and buy a ticket somewhere else but is there someone who you could ask to borrow money to get out of there? Your ex is being very cruel and his parents should be ashamed of themselves too if this is what they are really like. Be really angry but don't let it stay because the only person this will hurt is you. I can bet that your ex could care less that you are walking around angry. I have been in your shoes and understand FULLY when someone you truly cared for screwed you royally and then you are left with all this bitterness. Take it from me, if you don't hurry and get rid of this anger it will fester. I truly hope you can find a place where you will feel safe. The best of luck and God bless.
2006-12-21 11:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only one you are going to hurt by hating some one is yourself ,,,, You have every right to hate him but what good is it going to do except eat you up inside ,,,,, He probably won't even be aware of it so really in the long run it does no good ,,,,, This whole affair sounds like a lesson learned for future reference though,,,,, Were I you I wouldn't bother to speak to him ever again ,,,,, That guy sounds like a real jerk ,,,, He should have been there to pick you up if for no other reason than your safety ,,,, He had you out on a limb there and in a potentially dangerous situation ,,,,, Things can happen to young women traveling alone and it would have been his fault had something happened ,,,,, You mentioned that he said he didn't want you out on the streets but where did his actions wind you up ,,,,, ON THE STREET ,,,,, What a jerk ,,,, There are allot of fish in the pond so go fishing and find someone that treats you the way you think you should be treated ,,,,, Find someone that's fun and exciting to be with that comes trouble free ,,, they are out there ,,,, Forget this other guy and chalk him up to a bad experience ,,,,, I truely hope things work out for you ,,,,, Yoda said that ,,,,,
2006-12-21 11:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually hate derives from pain so it's completely natural and normal for you to harbor those kind of feelings. I think what he did was really immature and messed up and he should've acted more like a man rather then a little boy and have been honest with you from the get go. I don't blame you for hating him right now and don't worry most people have experienced hating/disliking their ex on some level during a point in their lives (I hate my scumbag ex, if that helps..lol). Just realize that if they could be this inconsiderate towards you during the holidays especially, then they were not worth your time and effort and you should consider yourself lucky not to have to spend you holidays with them. I hope that you find somewhere to go for the holidays and I hope that you are able to get passed this a*shole so that you can enjoy them too. Take care and good luck:)
2006-12-21 11:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry. That's pretty scary. Good thing that you know Tom. Perhaps you can go to the YMCA and find a chance to volenteer in the soup kitchens over the holidays. When you are rejected sometimes it gets all warm and cozy helping others.
Just put this on a shelf in your memory and don't do it again. I am sending a blessing and you will meet a wonderful person who is a helper at christmas too. You want a generous person and volenteers are generous... sometimes too generous and sometimes just right. There are animal helpers, zoo helpers, church helpers, all kinds of wonderful people out there. I'm going to dream you a good one. I have powerful dream designs. Good things will come soon to you. bless ya.
2006-12-21 11:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is thank your friend Tom take him out to eat or get him a gift cert to his favorite restaurant. Hopefully you can make the best of it while your in NY. In the meantime make some plans to see other friends. As far as your X he no longer is in your world, I would not take his calls, or let him know anything about you. Remember your self worth and what he just pulled means he isn't true to his word and that is one big red flag, big road sign saying "I'm a liar, not trust worthy" Thank your stars, get off your butt and try your best to go have some fun. Keep busy, don't stay alone or in a house go to the mall, movies, airport just hang out and people watch but keep yourself busy so you don't think of the liar.
2006-12-21 11:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by truthful 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex sounds immature and yes you have every right to be mad at him. He should have been a man and just told you not to come instead of having you fly to a city and not have a place for you. Some people are just jerks, but Karma will get him....
2006-12-21 11:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, after reading all that, I definitely think you have every right to hate him. That was so rude and insensitive of him. I mean, he first invites you, then doesn't bother to answer your calls or e-mail and then doesn't bother to pick you up. When, you finally somehow make it on your own, he tell you to leave? He sounds like a jerk!
Don't waste any more time on him. You have every right to be angry now, I wont tell you don't waste your emotions on him. I can imagine you must be fuming right now. But, afterwards, relegate him to "mistakes I shall learn from" and never think about him again.
2006-12-21 11:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, he invites you out then disses you? Why don't you go out with Tom? It seems this guy Tom is willing to take care of you. Give him a shot.
Oh and there is no reason to hate just stay away, and get over him and if your on drugs, get clean!!
2006-12-21 11:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was wrong for doing you like that if he didnt want to be bothered he should of let you know before hand so now your stuck at another friends house hunh if i was you i would never talk to him again don't hate him tho forgive him but never forget what he has done to you
2006-12-21 11:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by new life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋