A colleague in office liked my. She was real HOT. I proposed her and she said YES. We were soon dating, hugging, movies, shopping... happy stuff you know !! Things were fine, the 1st kiss happend, then the 2nd... car scenes etc. When it came to sex, she enjoyed talking about it, cuddling was okay too, but the act had to wait until after marriage "I am a traditional girl". Soon, I found an obvious lack of interest frm her side though she never agreed. We were arguing about her commitment to me. She kind of insisted that I marry her quick and that I meet her mom and bro. I had a few career things to attend to first. On one chance occassion, she told me that she was married once and divorced with a 1-yr-old son. Her ex-hubby got married again. I told her it was okay as far as she would not return to him. Things were fine then too. she told me every time I touch her, she was reminded of her Ex. 1 day, she tells me he comes back, leaving his current wife, and that it is over.
2006-12-21 03:00:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah !! I tried with a cool head to sit down and talk to her on various occassions. She kept insisting that I marry her. I would love to do that, provided I was satisfied that she reciprocated my feelings. There were times when she would tell me her mom wanted her back home immediately after office (times that we used to be together earlier). OTHERWISE SHE ALWAYS USED TO SAY I LOOKED SO SEXY IN MY SWEATERS. I always had a ray of suspicion, basically due to lack of tangible emotions (all I needed was a good tight hug and tell me things are okay, "dont worry I am there for you always" from her mouth) instead she would take off by stating that I doubt her and make me feel pathetic for weeks together. Weekends used to be a lonely affair for me (I was working in another city, not my hometown; she was a local). She used to be acting so pricy. Probably, I got too emotionally involved. Is she faking this ex-hubby's return, is she carrying on with a pretending well-wisher.
2006-12-21 07:27:14 · update #1
I doesn't really matter if she was lying to you or not.
This chick is out of her freaking mind. Hide the sharp objects. Put the rabbit in a locked cage.
Put this wack job behind you and thank God you got out before you actually did marry her.
2006-12-21 03:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't over her ex and while she probably didn't know it, she used you as a substitute. When she could get the real thing back, you, being only a reasonable facsimile, had to go.
Now, the next event you need to watch out for is the ex and she having problems again one day. It sounds like its only a matter of time. Don't be surprised if she slinks back to you, wanting to get back together with you again. You have to realize this girl is will never see you as anything but a substitute for the ex and if you want to maintain a modicum of self-respect, you need to break things off permanently.
2006-12-21 03:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this whacko ASAP. Never start a relationship with someone who can't be honest with you from the start. That applies to both boys and girls. The old saying 'Never get your tail at the place you get your mail ' applies here
2006-12-21 03:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by cuban friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r in the lad just 4 now and she wants her ex back ur just bin a door mat til they make up she will get bk with him coz they av a kid together trust me id get bk wiv ma husband if we ad a child together
2006-12-21 03:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by sharon m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well despite the fact that she did not admit to her true lack of commitment... She was sending all kind of messages... You chose to over look them..
It does not make it right... but also I hate the fact that we only want to see what we want.. instead of what is really happening.
Instead of focusing on what she did to you... Realize your own challenges.. and work to overcome them.. Pray for peace of mind and take it as a learning experience.
I know that you are part to blame... you proposed way to soon.. don't be so anxious..
Learn about a person and their family... you will get a good idea of who you are dating.
You dont want someone who hides the fact that they have a child anyway!
Move on!
2006-12-21 03:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by Esther J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is luying to you. You should just forget about her and move on. If she is happy you should be happy for her. I am aslo sure that you will find your soul mate pretty soon.
2006-12-21 03:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by dandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she never got over her ex and was trying to forget about him, with her relationship with you...She was not really lie-ing to you, but to herself...and you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person...
2006-12-21 03:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b happy that u really didnt get married to her...things could have been worse...just count ur blessings and move on..
2006-12-21 04:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky you found out before marrying her!!!
2006-12-21 03:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by trucks2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with her and ask her what is going on. Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable telling you about her innermost feelings.
2006-12-21 03:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Nas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋