This guy is my best friend. But I wish it was more because to me is my Knight in Shinning Armor. I even told him that he would never have a girl friend that cares about him like i do. He said i was obsessed. He even says that its nesseasary to tell his Girl Friends this "She is My best friend, but she is obsessed." What do i do? even when you get us in the same room you see little sparks go off. How can i get him to see?
2006-12-21 02:49:57 · 19 answers · asked by moodog_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okey his current girlfriend is hooking me up with one of her friends and im pretty excited.
2006-12-21 02:57:41 · update #1
I'm sorry you are in this predicament. Love is hard because it has no rules and sometimes doesn't affect both people at the same time. You shared your feelings with him and that's all you can do. Give him some time, maybe he will realize that you are right and that he will give you a try. If he chooses not to he needs to respect your friendship and not make comments about you to other women like he has been when he says you are obssessed. What you need to do is move on and let some other guys show some attention to you and maybe that will bring him around. If not, you will have many more boyfriends.
2006-12-21 02:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't feel the same way, then outside of roofies or a really good magick spell there isn't much you're going to be able to do. my best friend is a girl and i went through the same thing where i thought we were sparkish but sometimes when we want something bad enough, we can see things that aren't really there. i wouldn't wait around for long, sweetie. you should get on with your life if he's clueless.
2006-12-21 03:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but it sounds like he doesn't feel the same way. if he has girlfriends and makes it a point to tell them you are obsessed...it's not going to work out for you. you should move on. plus if you move on and he sees you in a relationship and sees how awesome of a girlfriend you can be, he might start to rethink things and come after you. :)
if you have nothing but friendship...then you have everything
good luck!
2006-12-21 02:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by B-Diddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, my friend, you can't make, influence, persuade, or otherwise tell a person how they can feel, no matter what. You need to focus on yourself, and remember that YOU are the most important person in your life. If you can get to a point where whether he likes you or not isn't as important, it's possible that he may be less threatened and entertain ideas of romantic-ness.
2006-12-21 02:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him fall for you.
My best friend was head over heels in love with me, and I just didn't have the same feelings for him.
He kept pushing me, and the more he did, the more it turned me off to the scenario.
Finally he let up with trying to date me. I had time to realize how much I really cared about him, and let him know.
We have been a couple for over a year now.
2006-12-21 02:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont pressure him to feel the same. he might have feelings for you but they might not be as strong as yours are for him. dont make it seem like your obsessed with him and think that you two are meant to be together this will only drive him away. give him time if he begins acting interested their may be hope but if he doesnt then you are better off as friends.
2006-12-21 04:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by chrfou18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more "How can he get you to see." Maybe it;s time for you to start hearing what he's saying rather than seeing little sparks go off.
2006-12-21 03:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he says is that you are obsessed, he probably doesnt feel the same.You put yourself out there and told him how you felt.Give hime a chance to respond.If no other response,besides,'you're obsessed', let it go. Just becuz you feel for him,it doesn't mean he has to feel for you. may not b wat you want to hear and im sorry.,but you cant force something that may not b.he may just like being your 'friend'.
2006-12-21 02:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by dodgeball371 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my advice honey. You need to not push. When the guy starts to see you interact with someone else they themselves start to open up the possibility of being closer. Don't mention it anymore. Just start changing your habits. If he thinks that you aren't into him anymore he might be more revealing about his true intentions.
2006-12-21 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to have to tell you this, but some things just aren't meant to be. And if you try to force it you could make it worse. Just continue being friends and relax. Maintain your position, but don't force it. Don't be "obsessed" or you might drive him away.
2006-12-21 02:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋