I'm in a serious relationship and for the last couple of months i've been feeling like theres something wrong(no i don't think he's cheating i have more confidence in him than that) but i know its something. I'm a good person and i go out of my way for him so it can't be that i'm lacking on something I cook, I clean, I work, I keep him very satisfied, he say theres nothing wrong but i feel different we spend time together but all this does'nt matter i still feel theres a problem or is it just me?????? ( SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE)
2006-12-21 02:47:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
better to be asking him these questions. Just tell him how you're feeling. Women's intuition is usually never wrong. Somethings up, but it may not be a bad thing either.
2006-12-21 02:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be a number of things. I felt like this when I was married to my sons father. He said and did all the right things but no matter what he did I didn't feel like he really loved me. We had been together for 7 years when we had our son. He was an excellent father treated me and our son good, but I still had that nagging feeling that he truely didn't love me. Six months latter I found out he was cheating on me with an 18 year old. I am not saying that your bf is cheating but you know when something is wrong even if there are no symptoms. Another thought I was thinking was (Even thought I do not know how long you have been dating) maybe you feel like this because you are not married to him and you are ready to move on to the next step in the relationship. Maybe that is bugging you and you haven't realizxed it. You are having these feelings for a reason. Just try not be be narrowminded as to what it might be. Don't let people put ideas into your head either, you will know in time. Good luck to you.
2006-12-21 11:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There might be a problem.... the problem might be that you feel like there's a problem. That could be a problem. If you keep persisting there's a problem with him or to him, then he'll probably find a reason to make a problem happen. As it is there's no reason to panic. What you need to understand is that you've only been in the relationship for a couple months. Was he just getting out of a relationship he was in for a while? Maybe he's fighting with himself on this. I know from experience (I was dating someone for almost 9 months) we got emotional and the feeling was mutual, I screwed up and wanted to make plans for New Years Eve with her, and said you know January will be a year that we've been dating". BAM, just like that, she turned the switch off. Only wants to be friends now. She realized that she was in an actual relationship (we didn't see anyone else) and she was getting out of a marriage of 11 years and didn't want to jump back in like she did. She has and had strong feelings for me, but.... was not ready for that type of relationship.
So, take it slowly. Don't rush him if he's not ready for you. Be understanding of his needs and he will be understading of yours. Do let him know what you expect and let him tell you what he expects. Then there won't be any "problems" to worry about!
Allow him to be himself, and get to know who he really is. If you can get him to talk about his past, you'll have a better understanding of who he is and how he's going to be like in the future. As a child, did he keep to himself a lot? Or was he mostly with friends? If he tells you stories about how he used to leave the house and stay gone all day just by himself, he's going to need and want time alone. Dont' sufficate him, just understand his needs and you'll be fine! Don't think his time alone has anything to do with you. Because it's all about him, if that's the case.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 11:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have learned that when you feel like something is different then it is. The best I could advise is to put your finger on what it is that is different and talk to him about that. Maybe its just the length of how long you two have been together. Over time, every relationship goes through changes and they don't all have to be bad changes. But if you are dissatisfied with the way the relationship is now, look at the specifics and start from there.
2006-12-21 10:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, it might be that time where you give him some space. My husband and I actually had to take a two month hiatus from seeing each other because he was starting to get that way. (But also, he was in the military and he has a mental health issue, so it's tough!) If you don't live with him, I recommend getting in touch with him once in a while, to show him that you care and still love him, but let him experience life without you for a bit. See if he can clean up after himself, cook, make himself happy.... Most men would die to have something like that so who knows, he might come back running.
2006-12-21 10:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by omgrachie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u should relle let it go. Right know ur probally going through a Astive Mental Issue, and I know when u read it sounds like ur retarded or something, but really all it is, you see that u have been going through a realationship for a long time, so ur mental HUB is just wondering if somthing is wrong. Now if u see something that is weird, like if he is leaving at 5 to go some were and does not tell u drop, but if it keeps going i would investagate. GOOD LUCK, and try not to worry so much
2006-12-21 10:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by master brad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually if you feel like something is not right chances are there is something going on. It could be very insignificant though so I Suggest telling him how you feel and asking what's bothering him. At this time of year there is so much stress on everyone. It could be just that. Talk to him and ask what you can do to make things better. Good luck!
2006-12-21 10:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say too much as to why you have these feelings--Maybe you feel you are investing more into the relationship than he is--like you are trying so hard and he is more relaxed--
be honest with him and just ask --if he is not spending allot of time unaccounted for away from you and doest talk on the phone in secret--then whats to worry??
2006-12-21 10:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The "something" that you feel is wrong is that you are being taken advantage of. It seems like you do a lot to keep him happy, but you didn't mention anything he is doing to make you happy. If all of the effort is one-sided, you are probably getting bored or frustrated with the relationship.
2006-12-21 10:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are spending too much time together. Try doing some things on your own and encourage him to do the same. And, you cook, clean and work? Try to get him to help out, not for him, but for you.
2006-12-21 10:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like maybe your being a little paranoid. I've been there myself, just relax and keep doing what your doing and I'm sure that you will feel better about everything. If he says theres nothing wrond and you trust his answer then I would say its just you, Good luck.
2006-12-21 10:54:53 · answer #11 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋