I have been hooking up with one of my friends for over 5 months. I know it;s not going to anywhere and he really only sees me as a hook up buddy. I like him so much and know I have to get over him! I can't say no to him when he asks me to stay over.....what can I do other then the obvious (saying no when he asks me to stay?)
2006-12-21 02:43:25 · 18 answers · asked by Sam s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys are very simple and very few are going to say no to abit of "ya know what"... if a girl is giving it out so freely, with no strings, why would they?... whereas you are going through this emotional turmoil...he probably doesnt even think twice about it...
You should kick up a fuss and tell him how you are feeling... then he will either come to a conclusion thats it not worth it or he may actually like you... either way it has to stop, otherwise he will lose the little respect for you that he may still have, and thats probably the worst thing that can happen.
2006-12-21 03:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by mz_recruiter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do the following:
1. Realise that its his loss not yours
2. Stop seeing him, not in a bad way - dont tell him you are hurt etc just become very busy
3. Take you time before you meet someone new, and only go for it if you feel ready
4. Make sure you ditch this loser, even when the temptation is too great - trust me he will come running back and its so so sweet
5. Only do a no strings situation if you can handle it - never pursue this if you are hoping the guy will fall in love - it aint gona happen
6. Think twice next time
7. Never let a man call the shots - you make sure you stay in contro
8. Be so so so sexy next time he sees you that you can't even remember what you saw in him in the first place.
2006-12-21 10:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Trouble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to say no or you explain to him that you're not looking to be a casual thing to him and that you think you should stop it.
A real friend will appreciate this and agree to cutting out the hankypanky - a guy that gets odd or doesnt agree with you is only using you for one thing and not much of a friend in the first place. Xx
2006-12-21 10:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know how that feels i have a friend like that too except i know him for a few years.
i really fancied before but then i had to come to terms that all he will be is just a hook up buddy and i moved on with myself although we are still friends but he is not on my top list for serious friendship, and now even when we have been out to a restaurant, he asks to come home with him i take pleasure in saying hmmmmm....... i'll think about it *** hole.
2006-12-21 11:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by sugar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You CAN say no!
I've just come out of a similar situation and although it only lasted two months, I really missed him at first. However I have more self respect than to merely be someone's "friend with benefits". The longer you allow this to continue, the worse it will be.
Go out there and find someone who values you for more than just a shag.
2006-12-21 10:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by ibizagirl_2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and avoid the situations were he asks you over , or actually talk to him and be like i wanna know if you think this is going anywhere , if not can we just be friends ,
2006-12-21 10:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by lost in gun fire ...<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you keep making the same mistakes because deep down inside you think that one day things are going to change and he is going to feel the same way you do. you havent got to say no just play hard to get. if he phones you dont come out and say no straight away just pretend you are thinking about it and say yes but ummm ive already got plans or just say ill see what i can do and see what he says. you saying yes straight away he has no respect for you hun. your worth more than that.
good luck x
2006-12-21 11:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by kjw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that most department stores sell the following, go buy some........
Its called self............esteem !! Go get u some !!!
Try masturbating instead of staying with him. Im sure you are worth a LOT more than being considered a pieceofass......
2006-12-21 10:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is really say no unless you want to be his hookupbuddy for however long. Try to keep a distant from him even though hes your friend, all tell him that you see him as more than jus a friend. goodluck
2006-12-21 10:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by laydeeheartless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn how to stay NO.....he's using you....find someone who just doesn't want you as a sleeping partner.....trust me...if this is going nowhere your just wasting time...get someone who is interested in you and not whats between your legs....just tell him that your busy...or tell him you are with someone else and cant do it any more...he'll continue this while you allow it....make a stand and say no....
2006-12-21 11:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋