i have been going out with this girl for a month now, and she broke up with some guy a few month ago. But i recently found out from one of her bestfriends that no other there is a guy out there that is decent anymore. I know that i just need to give her some time to get over her ex but what else can i do?
2006-12-21 02:16:07 · 22 answers · asked by briantran6070 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Show her size of ur penis
2006-12-21 02:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right in the view that you need to give her the time she needs. Girls get more cut up emotionally when a relationship breaks up than guys do because they set much more store in the commitment part of a relationship than most young guys do. For them it is far more than just the sex: it goes far deeper than that. So it takes time for a girl to get over an ex and you have to give her the time she needs.
Don't crowd her or push her into going where she is not ready to go. Be totally honest in your dealings with her: let her know that you love her and that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk. If she needs to talk, be honest with her: don't bullshit her just because you fancy her. Just be a friend, give her a cuddle when she needs it, and give her the reassurance she needs that she can trust you 200% and then you bloody well better live up to that promise in the future.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 11:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do; it is her journey to go through the grieving process for the loss of a relationship that was important to her, but now no longer is...to push it will only delay the process and it will rear its ugly head later on. That does not mean that you have to listen to her grieve about it; that is what her girfriends are for. If talking about her ex makes you uncomfortable, set boundries now because if you don't you may not be seen as future boyfriend material...you will just be lumped into the "friend" category.
2006-12-21 10:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break it too you, but you are what I would term a "rebound" guy. You need to drop this girl faster than Brittney Spears can flash her beaver at the camera. If you don't, she will eventually dump you and go back to him and by then you will have developed a strong attachement for her and you will end up in a deep depression where you will turn to the bottle and perscription drugs to assuage the pain of the loss that she has caused you. You will withdraw from you family and friends, lose your job, sleep all day when your not crying..until eventually one day you climb to the top of the local radio station and threaten to jump off if they don't play Celine Dion's "My heart will go on", b/c that was your song.....or..I think thats what might happen...anyways...
2006-12-21 10:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it half right. You do need to give her some time, but to protect you and her, you also need to give her some space. She has to realize that she needs to deal with this issue, what ever it is/was betewen her and the ex, before she can move on to anything new. If your relationship with her is meant to be, it will last even during time and space, but it sounds like you're the rational one and you may need to make the executive decision to help her work this out. She needs to be clear that this is bothering you and that its not fair to you. Maybe this will help her to "snap" out of it.
2006-12-21 10:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Si S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off for a while and dont see her as much as you have been, go out with the guys and have fun...then if she is serious about you, that might just make her think,hey hang on...what about me, and she may then start trying a little bit harder..
good luck...women are strange creatures..
2006-12-21 10:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by intruder3906 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, somethings as we all know are hard to let go. Advice for you is to be who you are. Be patient, understanding, and always show her respect. Never pushy, but most of all show her that there are guys out there that are decent.
2006-12-21 10:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are right that time is probably the best answer, but it also sounds like she needs friends now...so you can be that person. When someone keeps turning to a friend...maybe one time when they look, in the near future...they will see even more than a friend?
2006-12-21 10:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be very careful - she is on the rebound.
You are currently a nice distraction that is taking her mind off her troubles.
Never get involved with someone who has issues and/or baggage that they haven't dealt with properly.
2006-12-21 10:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by ibizagirl_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same i thought no one could ever live up to him til i decided to give someone a chance it took time and it was hard but it was worth it sometimes space is good but not too much and a helping ear and someone to talk to that understands can be good men r always better lovers when there your friend
2006-12-21 10:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Lassey Sammi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump her shes useing u to get over her ex beleve me
2006-12-21 10:18:20 · answer #11 · answered by PRINCESS! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋