I have only known my girlfriend for a little over a month. I am quite fond of her and we get along great. The other day she came out and said she loved me and I just said back to her "I love you too." Now she acts like we are going to get married and I have only known her a short time. Did I mess up? I like her alot but not sure about the love thing. It just kind of fell out of my mouth.
2006-12-21 02:15:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uh Oh! big mistake my friend
2006-12-21 02:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my girlfriend for about a month and half when I first told her I loved her, and I waited until I meant it. I was really afraid that it would be too soon and it would turn her off, but it ended up just popping out of my mouth without me thinking about it while we were cuddling and it made her very happy and she said "I love you too." Now we still tell each other that we love each other 1,000 times a day. In your case, you have secrued the relationship, at least for now, so try not to let your girlfriend's clinginess get to you too much, that's just how some girls are and you can't change that. As long as you meant and felt what you said, it was right for you to say it.
2006-12-21 10:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously fell into a typical female trap. It's a no-win situation for the guy. By saying what she wants to hear when you weren't sure that is what you felt, you are in trouble. But you would have been in trouble if you had hesitated, or given a more qualified response as well.
Just set her straight & tell her "just because I said I love you, I didn't mean I was ready to marry you", or something like that.
You don't have any responsibility for how she thinks & feels, you are only responsible for your own thoughts & feelings, so try to stay honest with yourself.
Cheers!
2006-12-21 10:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only known each other for a little over a month, then I don't know how you can be in love with each other already. You need to tell thisn girl to slow it down. Maybe tell her you are not quite ready for a committed relationship. Yea you messed up with that one. Good luck you you!
2006-12-21 10:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being female I feel you shoud have a talk with her because when she finds out you dont really love her its going to hurt because females take the L word very seriously. Just tell the truth, that you dont you think that yall should tell each other that yall love each other because yall only known each other for a little while and you dont think yall ready say say that yet.
2006-12-21 10:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to politely get across the "doesn't it feel almost like love, we are so excited to be with each other"....idea....which means the new exciting feeling kind of overwhelmed you both into jumping the gun and it certainly seems like she is the right person you want to get to know better. But you need to SAY something like this or she will start wondering why you never say again "I Love you"...it will start festering. If you bring up this conversation, for all you know, she might be relieved, feel the same way that she spoke too soon. Emphasize you look forward to getting to know her better....
2006-12-21 10:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by lotsaanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should've said i like you instead. Girls tend to get overexcited when you say you love them so just tell her we need to slow it down a bit. That's about the only thing you can do. Next time though don't say I love you unless you know that you really do.
2006-12-21 10:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok its natuarl to have said something like that. You have to ask yourself these questions. Do you know you love her? Is she worth your time? and when you say she is acting like yall are getting married, if she is like the obsessive kind you need to sit with her and talk with her. Same goes for if she starts acting like the "ugh" type you still need to talk to her. And No you made NO mistake.
2006-12-21 10:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by moodog_love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are fond of her. Tell her that and say you want to get to know her and see where the relationship goes.
Be honest. She will understand.
2006-12-21 10:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to her and tell her this. Explain to her that you might be in love with her but she might be taking things a little to far right away. It's easiest to just talk to a girl then you think. We like to talk!
2006-12-21 10:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man !!!! you are in such deep shi t now. Women have a saying - "Men are like flooring, if you lay them right the first time you can walk all over them for years."
2006-12-21 10:20:30 · answer #11 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋