my husband is a good man and i know he loves me.but am in love with another and i dont want to leave my husband becos it aint right, besides this other man isnt gonna marry me.but am so crazy about him. i want to feel that way for my husband again. i want to stop loving this other man. i dont wanna lose my husband. but i cant get this man out of my blood.
2006-12-21 02:08:57 · 9 answers · asked by delish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forbidden fruit always seems sweeter...until you taste it. You need to eliminate the other man from your life and figure out what in your marriage is missing and work on improving it.
2006-12-21 02:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all ties with this other man. You got to get him out of your head and that's the only way. Don't allow yourself to have any contact with him at all. Don't even think about him.
Then, put all that energy into the relationship with your husband. Extra "quality time" - spice it up a bit with stuff you haven't done before. Go out on dates again. Do the stuff you used to do when you were dating.
Also, be sure to look good for your husband. When you look sexy you feel sexy.
I know you are going through a hard time right now. I sympathize. Just remember that what you are feeling for this other guy us probably just lust - not love.
It's always so intense when it is something new... but it won't last like the love you have with your husband.
2006-12-21 10:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation as yours. But i have rejected the 3rd party when I feel my emotions getting out of control. I understand that you are asking this question is you are loving your husband, your husband has been nice to you and it's just the missing sparkle. Take a step back, re-focus on your husband, there might be some issues in your marriage that you are avoiding. Perhaps, you need to let your husband know if you have such issues. And for the other man, you said he wont marry you, that is why he is in love with a married woman? I think this guy probably has issues , just that you are mesmerised by him right now and you wont see them as yet. Remember the feeling you had with your husband when you both fall in love? Go back to those places? Concentrate on the good thoughts of your husband. I hope you find strength to overcome this. I know it is not easy
2006-12-21 10:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must choose. If you really loved your husband as you claim you would either (1) stop cheating on him in an adulterous affair with the other guy; or (2) leave him, because you are not doing him any favors by being unfaithful. To not make a choice and continue to act in the way you are acting is simply wrong and has the potential for destroying two families and four lives at least (more if there are children involved)
2006-12-21 10:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to end all contact with this other man. He is causing you to loose the love for your husband. Try to remember what attracted you to your husband in the beginning. Pay more attention to your husband and his needs. Relationships change and mature as time goes on. You will not have that butterfly feeling again, you will have a deeper love that binds the two of you together. Get rid of that intruder!
2006-12-21 10:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the arms of another man you truly can not love your husband.
Go out and get yourself professional help before you loose your marriage.
2006-12-21 10:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do something nice with your husband. Something romantic to get the fire going again.
2006-12-21 10:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you bother getting married if you were going to be a cheating scumbucket
2006-12-21 10:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by danniselv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey!!??? is that you????
u ***** i is gonna slap u silly!!
just kidding
haha howd u feel?
2006-12-21 10:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Pickles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋