He ended it with me over another reason. After 2 weeks, we decided to give it a try but i sensed something was goin on between them but he said I was assuming. After I found out he went for the movies with her without telling me, i ended it. The both of them then really got together but he realized that it was absurd because she was seperated and is older. He then told me the truth about them. Saying we were borken up before they really got together. I was hurt because what I assumed was true and he said he ended it with her because it was a dumb mistake. I think the so called relationship-he built a gap with her-didnt see each other..he was distant,etc was about a month plus. He says he doesnt feel anything for her just care. He wants to work it out between us but all my friends says I shudnt because of the way he treated me before the breakup (he was acting distant,lying). I am angry and hurt but something tells me i shud forgive him cause he was crying and regrets...
2006-12-21 02:03:18 · 20 answers · asked by honeyz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes You have to Forgive so that you can Move On!
Forgive But Don't Forget
2006-12-21 02:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all,your bf is a person who needs attention and doesnt like to be left alone. Are you ready to sacrifice your time for him so as he is not alone? This is based on what you have stated that he separated with her due to they didnt see each other. Spending quality time and communication are the important essentials in a relationship. Secondly, most of guys are ego thats the reason why they didnt tell the truth reason why they are breaking up with us.After realising that they had made the wrong choice they will work for it.To me, forgive him but learnt from the mistake. Be more careful and spend time with him not only watching movies and having dinner together but like preparing dinner together,making things together and etc but refrain yourself from having sex so you wont feel sorry and hurt if he cheated you again.Lastly,if he doesnt meant to be with you then he wont come back to you.
2006-12-21 03:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by irah_miti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being angry and just move on I know that sounds like a hard thing to do but that's the only way you will ever get over this.
I know that he hurt you and sad nut talk with some friends got out do something to get your mind off of him! living in the past will never bring you the future.
2006-12-21 02:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by kim806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you just going to be a rebound for him until he finds another. You don't always know what you have until its gone, but that is also true with buyers remorse. Change is scary, but you need to move on and force him to move on. Obviously he wasn't happy and started looking, found something new and exciting tried it and now wants to come back to what was stable. Also maybe she got rid of him and he needs the ego boost and knows you'll give it to him. Be strong and confident, know what you want and expect nothing less. Honesty and trust are hard to earn, but easy to lose, so you need to ask yourself if you think he can ever earn them back.
2006-12-21 02:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off don't listen to what your friends say.....they are your friends and they now hate him because he hurt you. You need to listen to your heart. If you feel he is sincere and truly sorry and you want to give him another chance, go for it. But make sure whatever you do, you do it for you and nobody else. You need to ask your self if he makes you happy, has the good out weighted the bad, is he worth it, is he good enough for you, has he come clean completely with you, and will he do this again. Think about what you want. If you do take him back let him know he will not be able to do that crap again, this is his only chance. I will pray for you.
2006-12-21 02:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by roxie2k3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have something worth working out, then yes, forgive him. But you both have to remember that it will take time and patience. See a good counselor together if at all possible. Good luck.
2006-12-21 02:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by Brina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to people. the most big thing about love is ur willingly to forgive even if the mistakes hurt you forgive the person. this is ur decision not your friends. you ask your self if its worth it to give another try. everyone deserves a chance or maybe another. its not you he needs to worry about its himself... because if can;t afford to screw up again.
2006-12-21 02:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i have had this problem before. if you think that maybe you should talk it out that is your business but if he went out with someone while yall were together before, whos to say he wont do it agian and if you decide not to talk it out then believe there are plenty of more fish in the sea. lets not waste our times with the sharks out there but like i said your decision is your own business.
2006-12-21 02:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by cheerleader for life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat. Don't get back with him. There are plenty of good single men out there. Good luck!
2006-12-21 02:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crocodile tears, dear.
You are doing him a favor by forcing him to see he made a mistake. You don't need someone like this in your life.
bye bye baby!
2006-12-21 02:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by K. D. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋