How do I handle calls my 14 year old started receiving from a girl?

Question

He is a great kid, quite , responsible and accountable. For the most part no problems. Last night a young girl called and left a crazy message on the phone yelling for him to pick up the phone, he was sleep in bed at 10pm. I quickly picked up the phone and told her to "NEVER CALL AT THIS HOUR AGAIN" This morning I had him listen to her message and disscussed it with him. I told him I can't choose your friends, but be careful of the friend you choose, he or she represents you and also told him to handle it. This is his first experience, that I know of anyway, he never gave me any reason to distrust him.

Answer 1

It sounds like you did the right thing. I wouldn't have changed the way you did anything that you described. Your son is going to pick whoever he hangs out with regardless of what you say/do. The best response for you is just to encourage him to make the right decisions. My parents always did that for me and it worked out the best. My friends with all the rules were the ones that always broke them.

Oh and it might be a good time to start talking about birds and bees. Kids these days are getting older younger. That is up to your judgement as you know your kid better than anyone.

Answer 2

Let him do his own thing. Hes now a teenager and hes gonna have girls around, calling, maybe even a girlfriend(puppy love) Let him exerience these things and if hes in bed by then just pick up the phone and say sorry hes not avaiable right now but i can take a message for u. Thats all! Dont go yelling and being a pyscho to a 14 year old!Just trust your son, it seems like u dont want him to grow up! Let him go! But theres still disipline that u can give him! Just handle the calls the way u would like to be talked to! Dont scare his friends away! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like you handled it ok. Give him a curfew for phone calls (mine when I was a teen was 9pm) and instruct him to tell anyone he gives the number to not to call after that time. If someone does, pick up tell them it's too late for him to get calls and he'll have to talk to them tomorrow. If someone keeps calling too late get their number off Caller ID (if you don't have it already it's not expensive and with a teen is SO worth it) and call their parents. You could also talk to your phone company about how to block numbers from calling you, and block problem people from calling.

Answer 4

You handled it wisely. My kid's friends knew better than to call late at night or early in the morning. They knew I would I answered the phone and tell them like it is.

Answer 5

Well you didn't say what her 'crazy' message was but I would suggest telling him to make his friends aware of the fact that calling late is a no-no in your home.

Answer 6

ooh sounds like he angered a girl! well if he is 14 he may be able to handle it himself. Just talk to him about it and tell him to talk to the girl. if she was mad then ask him why he would make a girl mad and tell him how to fix it. it will make him feel better and give him a little freedom to feel a little more mature.

Answer 7

You did the right thing--very well done!! I did that when my son was 14 years old also and it stopped. But beware--he's just 14--others may call too--it's just teenage girls.

Answer 8

you handled it good....but you should have got a little more crazy on her.....like said " if you ever call here agfain I will wup yur asss" that would have had her thinkin you were crazy and she wouldnyt call there again.....she probably wouldnt bother yur son either........When them girls act crazy just get a little crazier on them it will work.........

Answer 9

i dont see a problem you trust your kid keep on trusting just guide him we all have freinds that are wild but we maintain ourselves from bein like them and to be ourselves

Answer 10

It seems like you just have to wait what happens next.