I am happily divorced, but the Holidays make me feel like I am missing out on some loved-up dreamy "couple life" that probably doesn't even exist. What is it about Christmas that does this to people???
2006-12-21 01:51:15 · 26 answers · asked by Its Scarlett 2 U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Human memories are usually associated with emotions. The memories of childhood Christmases (which are usually considered good times) are associated with emotions of loving and caring and sharing.
You might be happily divorced but you seem to be missing something. Perhaps the loving and caring and sharing.
The rest of the year you can be busy, keep you mind away from these areas, but near Christmas time, your memories and the emotions associated with past Christmases is a constant reminder of what you might be missing in your life.
Believe me, those who have found love (and not just romance) are experiencing that dreamy "couple life". It does exist. It is real. And it is absolutely great.
Just because you have had problems in a relationship in the past does not mean that all relationships are poor, bad for your mental and emotional health or some kind of fantasy.
Love is available for each and every human. People do not find love, it finds them. All they have to do is open their eyes and hearts so they will recognize it when it happen.
2006-12-24 03:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 13⤊ 1⤋
No, loved up dreamy couples are a figment of the imagination although I agree that Chrismas does make you feel like you're missing out. I think it's just a time of year where everyone automatically gets giddy, meets friends and family and generally warms to each other. Maybe everyone just starts to feel happier generally because there's something to look forward to, whether it's Christmas dinner with the family or going out and getting drunk. Couples probably do get closer but I guarantee they'll be arguing again after a few sherberts on New Years Eve.
2006-12-21 10:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a time of reflection. How many times throughout the year do you really think about everybody the same way you do at Christmas? People are so caught up in their own world and things going on they don't have time to reflect everyday. Some people even though they have a family, friends and spouses still feel like they are missing out on something. Obviously, there is something missing from their lives and I hope they find it. Think about the people who have no money for gifts, no food, no family, no place to call home. That's why all (a LOT) of donation drives are performed at Christmas. People are apt to be more generous at this time of yr. because they stop and think instead of just being caught up in their own everyday routine.
2006-12-21 10:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean - I've been happily single for 3 1/2 years and get the feeling that I'm being forced to feel lonely and emotional, but I try to ignore it because I feel fine at every other time of the year. I think its seeing more 'lovey-dovey' couples on the street, buses and trains, the media for promoting so many 'other half' presents, eg perfume, underwear, aftershave, jewellery etc, and magical miracles just happening with no explanation because....well, no explanation really, except that IT'S CHRISTMAS!!! I honestly don't know what's wrong with showing love to your family and significant other, giving presents and making them feel appreciated on the other 353 days of the year - it seems a lot of people must ignore their loved ones most of the year or something, hence this outpour of emotion over Christmas!
2006-12-21 10:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by angarch83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just Christmas? The trouble with life in general is that there are few decisions where there is a right and a wrong answer. Being happily single has a ton of good things going for it - freedom to get to know yourself, to do whatever you want whenever you want, the freedom to choose the right one when he comes along. The trade off is occasionally you're going to feel lonely. Unavoidable Im afraid. Focus on the positive, much better to be happily single than unhappily coupled :-)
2006-12-21 09:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Zander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is meant to be a magical time where anything is possible and everyone wants to spend it with the people they love, only trouble is if you haven't got anyone at the time it can seem really lonely and empty, all you hear about and see everywhere and on the TV is how cool it is for families and couples etc you never see someone having a great time on their own but I'm sure people do, just imagine all the kissing at parties under the mistletoe without a partner being upset lol
2006-12-21 10:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with Christmas is that it's supposed to be the "most wonderful time of the year." Commercialism has built this holiday up as being a happpy, glorious time. Reality can never live up to the hype and so we tend to feel that we are missing out on something. In reality, Christmas is the holiday from hell.
2006-12-21 09:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but it drives me mad! I hate the festive season - it really does seem like everybody else is loved up and happy.
Christmas is traditionally a time for family and is quite romantic as well, I suppose. I guess a lot of people can feel left out. It's also the end of the year, so people take time to reflect on the year's events, and evaluate their lives - which can be pretty depressing!
2006-12-21 12:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by ibizagirl_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, I understand you pain. Sometimes you sit and think about cosy family scenes, all cuddling and warm. We walk down the street and spot millions of couples walking beside us, making it even more depressing.
Honestly, why don't you comfort yourself with the fact that people are always shacking up at this time of year, and its precisely because of what you (and I) and millions of others are thinking. I bet get a partner quick!! Who wants to bring in the new year alone? And nobody would say no to an extra Christmas present from that special someone! Christmas makes smug people even more smug, and upset people even more upset.
My advice? Concentrate on what you do have! I bet you have a great circle of friends.. Well then they are your 'picture perfect family' and who knows who will be begging you to kiss them at the stroke of midnight on Dec 31st???!! You should be excited about what might come. The best thing about being single is not having the rest of your life planned out in front of you. Enjoy not knowing whats around the corner!
2006-12-21 09:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because Christmas is suppose to be about spending time with your loved ones (family and friends) and if your not in a relationship most of the time you do feel like you missing a major ingredient that allows you to fully enjoy the holidays.
2006-12-21 09:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by gdesigner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋