I divorced at a early age which is typical now a days. My ex-husband cheated on me. I have dated married men, mostly because I knew where they went home to every night. And if they said they were going to do something they did it. They were men of there words. Mostly older men. However all the single men I have met have someone else and are trying to talk to me at the same time. I don't believe in this internet meeting, and the bar I hang out at is full of males that are dogs. I have become good friends with all of them and I know there wives and girlfriends. But i'm still left all alone. I'm 29 years old and I have almost given up on meeting someone that can be to one person and has his life in tact. I grew up at an early age, and many have told me since I was 17, im more mature then the average person my age. Christmas is really taking a depressing toll on me and my family is 12hours away. What can I do to get out of this depression.
2006-12-21 01:49:51 · 20 answers · asked by Diamondbch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you said you dont believe in internet dating. Go to True.com. It is a free internet dating service. Thats how my mom met my dad 24 years ago and they are still happily married.
2006-12-21 01:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a lot more issues that just being alone during the holidays.
First off, if you are having trouble finding men in the places you are looking, then it's time to look elsewhere. The internet is NOT a bad place to look.
Second, how do you expect to find true love if the only relationships you are willing to get into have been with men that are taken? Just because one man cheated does not mean that all men are cheaters. But, it sounds like you have them pegged that way. While I can respect your caution, I can also tell you that you need to give men another chance, otherwise you'll never be happy.
Third, I don't know exactly how to get you out of your depression. I am in a slump right now myself. If you lived close to Seattle, I'd suggest we go out for a drink and maybe have some (non-sexual) fun together this weekend. Lord knows, I need it also.
2006-12-21 10:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm 40, divorced and have also only met single guys that seem to be total players. I don't put out for guys I don't know. I do not date married guys - my ex cheated on me and I don't want to be the "other" woman. My family is 18 hrs from where I now live. That being said, I refuse to let the fact that I'll be alone on Christmas get me down. I may have a date for New Years lined up - sure hope so cause I don't want to go out alone and won tickets to a concert that night!! Just think about this - you don't have to deal with a crazy family and can stay in your PJs all day!
2006-12-21 09:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you believe that there is a good man out there who can keep his word, be unmarried, not be a player and be kind and sensitive? Cause if you don't believe there is any man out there who is your ideal man, you are never going to find one.
Change your mindset. They say if you don't want fleas, don't hang out with the dogs. And that's exactly what you're doing.
Do something different. Go bowling in a different neighborhood. Visit a park or museum. Over even go to a different grocery store in a new neighborhood. You need exposure to new and different things. There are good people out there but your world has been moving in the same circles for years.
You will find somebody good if you believe he's exsists. Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-21 09:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how you say the married men you dated were "men of their words". I have a feeling their wives would disagree with you. You must realize that they had someone else just like the single "dogs" you spoke of. It sounds to me like you are trying way too hard to snag a man. There's nothing wrong with online dating, the key is to be confident in your statements and not just go for the first guy who sends you a message. I find that most people in bars are only looking for one thing -and there's nothing wrong with that- but maybe you should start hanging out somewhere else to attract a different kind of man. Check your paper for singles minglers and things like that.
2006-12-21 10:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - you are not going to find a "good guy" in a bar of drunks.
2 - you are participating in ruining other ppls relationships and marriages - stop being a slut. the only diff between what you and a hooker are doing with married men, is that a hooker is honest enough to charge for what you give away for free.
3 - i know teenagers who are more mature than you are, WHICH YOU ARE NOT - GROW UP.
4 - the birth control pill should be placed firmly between your knees for best effect.
5 - go home to your family for christmas and spend some time with them - learn what a real family is hopefully about. its not about screwing every male in the room.
6 - go to a doc - make sure you aren't a disease carrier now, clean up your body and mind.
7 - get professional help - see a psych. before you get involved with anyone else again.
8 - whe you revise your attitutde and clean up your act and lifestyle, you will feel better about yourself, and ppl around you will see it and begin to respond to you in a more serious and meaningful way. there are many worthwhile causes out there- go offer to be a volunteer with the red cross disaster relief - learn what it is to actually HELP another human being - it will change your current view of life.
2006-12-21 10:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take yourself off to the Wilderness,Hire a Chalet or Cabin.
Take some Music(That Uplifts You),some Good reading material.
Take Long walks,Relax and Enjoy Being YOU!
It always works for me!
2006-12-21 09:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I stopped reading you question at, "my ex-husband cheated on me". And you still had the uuumph to screw around with someone elses husband?????
I don't mean to be harsh, but you have a bit of a double standard don't you?????
Try dating to be dating, not to snag somebody up, let things happen naturally. If they are playing both sides, not worth anymore of your time, move on.
2006-12-21 09:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by littlemomma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out at the bar, you know what type of men are there. And as for those married men, men of their word eh? What? They go home and tell their wives they're screwing around on them? You're fishing in the wrong pond for your prince.
2006-12-21 09:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ive been depressed as well and the only way out is to do it yourself ---- i know it sounds trite but it does work --- concentrate on the positives and dont let the negatives bring you down
im sorry you feel that way ---- there is someone for you ----- im the most unlikely person to have found the love of my life --- im 53 and my lady is younger than you yet i cant imagine life without her and she is 15000 + kms
2006-12-21 09:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋