It all started in July when I & my gf had s3x. It was my 1st time & she said it was her too. When I later realised that she's cheatin on me, I decided to end the relationship. But I couldnt spot the storm that would screw my life up. In Aug, she calls me up & says she's probably pregnant. I was shocked when she said this as I had not c*mmed in her. After her call, I seriously thought abt jumpin off my balcony. I couldnt face myself. After the tests, she called me up & said she's pregnant & that she needs money for abortion. I told my Mom abt it & she said she was just tryin to get the money & she cant be preg & stuff. I broke off all ties wid her & she screwed my repute among all my net pals.
But since then, I feel scared to goto her city as I think I'll get screwed up if we meet again though it wasnt my fault. My Mom says life doesnt stop for no1 but everyday, I live under the fear that what if she sees me somewer?
2006-12-21 01:48:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if she recognizes me? What if she says **** that I made her preg & stuff in front of my frnds? My social life has become horribly curtailed. Eventhough all my frnds goto Disc's I dont coz I dont want a scene to be created if she comes there & spots me somewer. Now wid the New Year party comin up, all my frnds want me to come along wid them to the disc but I donno wat to do? My parents are goin to her city to my Unk's place but I'm feelin scared to. What if she sees me thr? I get nightmare's abt her meetin me and blackmailin me and stuff. I donno what to do? I feel that all my freedom has come to an end just because of one mistake I made. What do I do? How do I react if I ever meet her again in life? Or should I jump off my balcony so that this problem is solved once & for all?
2006-12-21 01:48:51 · update #1
dont think that way. suicide is a very selfish thing to do. girls suck man. keep ur head high. theres a girl out there for you. im sorry. i hope i changed ur mind.
2006-12-21 01:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by misunderstood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it's clear you're young. There is a lot of life ahead and this is going to look a lot better with some perspective. If she embarrasses you it will not be the end of the world. And think, why isn't SHE embarrassed? She's the one who's pregnant. Or is she? Maybe she's just looking for cash. Have you seen the results? Do you know her due date? She could have gotten pregnant after you broke up for all you know.
#1 - call a suicide hotline and talk this out with a professional
#2 - she can't "blackmail" you. If she was cheating on you it may not even be your baby. Until the baby is born a a paternatity test is done you should assume it's not yours.
#3 - if she wants an abortion send her to planned parenthood. They will help her get one based on her financial need.
#4 - if you've learned nothing else you've learned this - USE CONDOMS. Also since she was cheating get tested for STDs.
Take a deep breath, call the hotline, and learn from the experience. Life gets better as you go - good luck!
2006-12-21 10:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very simple issue to die for,face lielity approach her and talk in a mature manner let her understand your position besides she cheated on you.people in hospital are crying for life,they have serious diseases ur ok over a simple issue you want to take yo life.I rebuke that devil in you and the fears in u.God made you for a purpose not that you want todo grow up.Ask God to forgive you for the plans and asking him to give u courage,go to the city your problem is solved...u should have faith
2006-12-21 10:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by mr bad ii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wanted to die before and I do not wish that pain on anybody.
Don't do it because you will only end up hurting people that do care about you.
Suicide will have more affect on the innocent (your parents, friends, family) than it will on an extorsive *****.
No matter how right it seems at the time, it's all wrong.
2006-12-21 09:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I don't think that you should kill yourself over that, if she's is pregnant and wants to have an abortion then tell her that your going with her, if she say no then she really isn't pregnant and she only wants your money, I sure that you'll find someone out there who really likes you, don't let one girl throw you off. Good Luck, do like I said tell her that your going with her and see what she has to say .
2006-12-21 09:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother on this one. Don't you remember breaking up with her because she was CHEATING on you? Well someone else could have gotten her pregnant just as easy as you could have. Keep that in mind, and stop stressing. This is like 6 months after all this happened. Chill out.
2006-12-21 09:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that if she does that in front of your friends you should play dumb and her who the ***** she is she is probably just trying to get money for her drugs and suicide is not worth it no one has the right to make you feel bad about something you know wasn't you and hey just think of the pain you would go through if you jumped cause you would feel it before you die if you die i had a friend that parked herself in front of an on coming train. broke every bone in her body but she lived and feels the pain of it every day
2006-12-21 10:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by dutchess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her take a dna test, with you, and see if your dna matches the young ones dna, she maybe needing money, so just relax and dont think of suicide, it is going to not going to solve anything be make thing worst. so good luck
2006-12-21 09:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by Linux7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Committing suicide is not the answer. face her she should not black mail. I think it is both of your faults you both had sex and know what could happen. If you see her and she trys to black mail you then black mail her. The next time you have sex & don't want to get her pregent then use commen scenc.Most of the time when this happens the guys go gay!! DON'T!!!!!!! I rept myself DON'T GO GAY!!!!
2006-12-21 10:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tater Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is not the way to go. There are better ways to go about it. Don't lose your life over this.
2006-12-21 09:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋