Hope you can help with this!!
I saw this guy for a couple of months. We texted each other all the time and got on really well but it was only fairly casual because we were both newly single. However we were only seeing and sleeping with one another.
He confided in me about things in his past and we could talk about anything. However I think he may have regretted being so open as he was a little distant after that. He has a lot of baggage but nothing phases me and he knew that. We didn't meet as regularly but then he suddenly severed all contact two weeks ago.
I know he hasn't lost his phone and nothing has happened to him, so he obviously just didn't want to see me any more. I feel a bit used but am more offended as we had a good friendship if nothing else. Anyway, I know I'll see him out over Christmas & I'll be dressed to kill!
Should I just ignore him or should I give him the time of day if he approaches me? I WON'T be sleeping with him again by the way!
2006-12-21 01:38:19 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IGH3rat - I say WON'T be sleeping with him again as it's fairly obvious that he only wanted me for two things: sex and someone to talk to! I am not being conceited!!
2006-12-21 01:50:50 · update #1
H probably has a regular girlfriend now and that is the reason.
I would look my best and just be there, do not go out of my way to meet him but say "Hi" and give him a peck on the cheek if we came face to face.
Play it cool
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2006-12-23 02:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand you feeling hurt and used by this guy. You gave him your time and commitment and he has thrown it back in your face. But then, some guys are like that. I think girls are far more relationship-oriented and put a lot more store in things like commitment than guys do. A lot of young guys are only interested in the sex part of a relationship and that leads to a lot of emotional hassle you can well do without. If, as you say, he has a lot of emotional baggage attached, it is easy to see why he has acquired it.
What should you do if you see him again? Well, I don't think you should show your anger. Don't beat yourself up thinking about someone who clearly has no respect for your feelings! You are worth far more than that and you should just rise above your anger and ignore him if he approaches you. Turning your back on him as if he was not there will be theraputic for you and will cut into his ego far deeper than if you were to ball him out in public. He will see you, a statuesque beauty dressed to kill (as you put it) and then, unless he's a complete Neanderthal, realise exactly what he's lost – a gem! He will feel sooo small and insignificant! Serves him right!
You move on, girl! Onwards and upwards! Good luck in finding someone who will show you the respect you deserve and give you the commitment you need.
2006-12-21 02:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ignore him, than that shows him that he got to you - be totally normal like you would be with anyone else. I speak from experience when I say the guy who pulls the disappearing act, has an ex in the picture (or something similar to that effect) - You did nothing wrong, but he is a confused boy. He'll turn up again, i'm sure - and when he does tell him that that type of behavior is not acceptable to you - and how offended that he didnt care enough about you as a person, to pick up the phone!
2006-12-21 01:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry to hear that. Although you think that you weren't phased by what he told you, something you did or said about him has made him pull back. And when a guy does that, nothing's really going to change his mind. So it's great that you will be dressed to kill when you see him. So when you see him, you should give him a casual hello and be on your way. The way to spark his interest is to act like you're not interested. Never give anyone who dumps you the time of day!
2006-12-21 01:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id pretend not to see him when you're out and about - if he does approach you be civil - act like you didnt even notice he had left you! Dont ask him why or mention the relationship.
That will bug him the most - the fact that you're getting on with your life just fine and not missing him at all and stick by your intention not to sleep with him! Often these things fly out the window when we physically clap eyes on someone! XX
2006-12-21 01:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone's who's been there, the best thing to do is to make sure to look good. You want to put on the best clothes, makeup, and hair. You want him to think about what he missed. If he approaches you, smile and act like nothing happened. He's going to think, "Da-n, she didn't even sweat me." Even if you did, it's worth it for him to believe that you don't care about him! As for him actually attempting to get in good with you, don't do it. Politely decline and walk away. The only satisfaction should be, making him see that he didn't destroy you and that you still look good. Actually trying to be with him, will only mke you look pathetic. The more you act confident, the more confident you'll become.
2006-12-21 01:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it cool & act as if it doesn't matter if u see him or not. Something about playing hard to get attracts the other sex. Especially if u look HOT when he sees u again. U must act as if u can have anyone u please. Perhaps conceited! Just be sure to do this in moderation. Too much may scare him.
2006-12-21 01:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by jlicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, the key word is he has a great deal of baggage. So, I would not take his actions personally. He has things he needs to sort out, and probably does not have the skills necessary to have a decent relationship. Actually, he did you a favor. You do not need to get mixed up with someone who has issues that he has not dealt with yet. God bless****
2006-12-21 01:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act cooly, its the best way to lay the ghost to rest by seeing your ex. If you talk, laugh about the good times you had, however always look forward and never back, let him know you had a great time but have moved on... don't be brash about it, dont mention new partners, just say your having a great time and wish him a great xmas... After all its his loss isnt it!!!
2006-12-21 01:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't ingore him because then he would know that he hurt you and it would be akward for the both of you. I would just be casual and say "hi how have you been" or "long time no see" or something like that and leave it at that. Dont go out of your way to speak to him but if he approaches you just be casual.
2006-12-21 01:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by angie a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋