Well sorry if the below is a bit long one.I am a 27 Year old Hindu / Brahmin software engineer born and spent my student life in a small city in India..Very cultured and educated guy.I work for an investment bank in Singapore..I have seen quite a bit of Big cities/and western culture..since my professional life.I never loved any woman nor even got attaracted to.I am not a kinda BF/GF concept guy.I believe in strong permanent relationship.Recently accidentally i met some one at breakfast place , she is a Christian 30 year old beautiful lady works as a business development manager.I and she both go to the same place for breakfast and used to see each other..We after sometime started smiling at
each other.Finally one day i talked to her as well....she seemed pretty intrested in me...the way she looked at me...the qustions she asked...I have asked myself the below questions..to really clarify if mine is a Love/ attraction-infatuation which ppl say young guys..get confused with....
2006-12-21 01:37:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anand Kulkarni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1.I honestly agree that i do not know much about her..but my heart just can not stop thinking abt her.I have seen/met/interacted with many young women ..but she is the ONLY one who has impressed met till today.
2.Even if i had to wait all my Life to marry her at say old age of 60 I believe i would feel the same feeling for her which i have now.
3.I have never felt having physical attraction to her like feeling of sex/desire to hold her hand / touch her...
4.Lets say in worst case even if she becomes a Widow in future..I would still accept her...at any age..if i were available.
5.I feel happy when she laughs..Feed sad when she feels sad.I asked her out for dinner...and she denied saying she is ususally busy with her BF over week end...she had agreed earlier when i had called her and asked....infact she said "it sounds good" I sent a mail to her for my birthday ....no replies to even congragulate.
I called her after 3-4 days...just to say "hi" to her..an may be get her some sweets
2006-12-21 01:39:42 · update #1
May be i do not mean much to her...but my heart still feels the same feelings for her..what should i do ???? i just do not seem to like any other women.....
2006-12-21 01:40:35 · update #2
I would not tell her you love her but tell her you have some strong feelings for her and see if it is mutual "love" is a strong word and would scare most women off especially if you haven't even dated.
2006-12-21 01:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by benny619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too early to tell if you are in "love". Go out with her and see where it leads. You won't know anything for certain till you spend some time with her other than just having breakfast at the same place. What are you waiting for? Don't let her get away w/out ever knowing if it could be true love. Oh, by the way, almost everybody is confused at first when it comes to love, so you are not alone. Good Luck...come back in a few months and let us know how it went or is going.
2006-12-21 09:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my!!! {sigh}
The people who say to tell her that you love her are going to get you in trouble. From what I know about women, coming up front out of the blue and saying "I love you" is a sure way for her to think "this guys a nutcase".
I can understand what you are feeling, but time always changes how you feel. You may find out that she has alot of mental baggage that you can't handle or a lifestyle that dosen't click with yours.
Start some conversations and see if you are able to talk to eachother. Move onto seeing if you can see hour outside of this normal time and have lunch, dinner, or even a coffee at a shop later in the day. You have to give her a chance to see who you are first and to start feeling about you the same way you feel about her.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 09:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Funky_Medema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems a bit insecure. so I would be careful with this relationship.
The way to show her you love her, is to give your love to her purely. If you know that you do and she still has to ask you if you love her, then maybe you should slow down a little bit, because it always shows when you truly love someone.
2006-12-21 09:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sachu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you already have things in control. Keep things moving slowly, keep your mind open, and enjoy your time together. If it is love it will become more apparent as time goes by and you get to know each other better. Good luck and congradulations!
2006-12-21 09:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Gina E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not just go and tell her you love her. Tell her you'd love to get to know her a bit more, or perhaps go out for dinner or something like that. Definitely ask her to go out and see were that goes.
2006-12-21 09:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by gpapayia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll first you have to realize females are more sensitive then what guys usually are.........you prove to a lady you love her by actin it out from the heart ...heard of actions speak louder than words...welll yeah that goes in this answer...nothing happens just to happen .....if you prayed to God and asked him for a christian female then also ask God for guidiance he will secure your feelings toward this young lady only if its his will try not to rush to anything without Gods direction!!!
2006-12-21 09:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you start to date your and hang out with her and see what happens from there. Why does it have to be love right from the beginning?
2006-12-21 09:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out on a real date, but it can be casual, just ask her if you want to go to the mall or check out a movie...then once on the date stand real close to her and stare into her eyes, and then b lik "ay biitch , i love you" naw im jus playing. b lik "can i have some fries wit that shake?" then just hit that shiit my ***. take her to your crib and work your way to the bed, hiit that shiit dawg. then either after or before tell her you love her. thats how we do it my ***. keep it real playa
2006-12-21 09:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by John S. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you still see her at breakfast? If not, don't chase her. She probably isn't for you. Sorry.
2006-12-21 09:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by orca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋