I was in a wedding this past weekend and met this amazing guy. Only problem is, he has a g-friend. But we really hit it off and he smiled at me the whole wekkend. Then this past tuesday we went on a date together and he told me that he just knew his current girlfriend was not "THE ONE". But he said he wasnt going to break up with her until he sees if I really like him, a security issue I guess. Any other guy I would just ditch but this guy is amaazing. We really have something special. He is coming over for dinner tonight. What do I do?
2006-12-21 01:29:38 · 36 answers · asked by Kamryn's Mommie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have a friend (guy) who is in a similar situation right now (has a g-f, but met a great girl).
yeah, it looks like this guy wants to play it safe, so he wont risk breaking up with his g-f, because if things don't work out between you two, he'll be single...
if you feel there's something special between you two, give him a chance, go with what you feel is right. since he has a g-f, but has chosen to have dinner with you, he is giving you a chance!
a question you gotta ask yourself is, what does he mean by he won't break up with his girl "until he sees if I really like him"? if he wants s*x or something like that, then it's definitely not worth it, but if you being around him and there's something "in the air", i would give it a try. just tell him honestly how you feel.
2006-12-21 01:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by goldenheartcity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would tell him to make a choice, her or me. I would not allow him to place me in the role of the "other woman" no matter how wonderful he is. If you two really have something special, then he'll be willing to take the chance on you, and dump her.
But honestly, he doesn't sound all that great. He is cheating on his girlfriend with you, even if you two have never kissed. If he'll cheat on her, then he'll cheat on you. If he's so insecure that he can't be single, then he's not going to be a very good boyfriend either. Insecurities and dependencies can turn to possessiveness and jealousy in a relationship. Which can lead to verbal, and even physical, abuse.
2006-12-21 01:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, imagine being his girlfriend. How would you feel if your man was going to some other girl's for dinner? Ok, so his girlfriend is not the one. Does that mean you are? He's keeping her around as a security thing, which is silly. I would run screaming from this one.
2006-12-21 01:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. i hit it off with this guy that had a girl friend. it was depressing at first but i just kept on talking to him. he told me a little after we first met that he was going to dump his girl friend eventually because she was just really clingy and all. eventually, i ended up telling him how i really felt and now we're going out. so what i'm trying to say is just do what you would normally do...pretend he doesn't have a girl friend and let him know that you like him. he will realize that you're the one and he might just dump his current girl for you.
2006-12-21 01:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by ashv611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and think about what you're doing. Most guys are dogs and he's propbably not gonna break up with his girl, but if this guy is really as amazing as you say he is, then you need to wait until after he breaks up with his girl. You don't want to be the other woman. Put yourself in her shoes, what if your current boyfrind was dating someone while he was still with you, you'd say he was cheating. So my advice is to just wait, if he really wants to be with you, he'll wait too.
2006-12-21 01:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he clearly doesn't want to burn the bridges with his girlfriend just yet till he is sure of u, but it says alot about him, that he's insecure. we think we see alot of amazing things in someone new, only to be disappointed later on and see that they were nothing special. if he were a true man, he would break up with his girlfriend before he started a new relationship. i wouldn't get involved with him, he may do the same to u, u may one day think u have a good relationship with him, and he will be out checking someone else out who he thinks is better.
2006-12-21 01:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you don't have to worry about that ..if he's coming over for dinner tonight , let it be ...but, if you care about him having a girlfriend then you just have to show how much you like him...and anyway , he is the one to know what he should do anyway..it's not your fault ...!! and remember, he wouldn't come to your house for dinner if he loves his girlfriend ..probably, he might likes you even more , but just want to be sure ..!!
Good luck ..!!
2006-12-21 01:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Roy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I despise girls like you, seriously...it is not your business as far as their relationship...you should only step in when he's completely done with her...COMPLETELY, then you all can date...What if you start a relationship with...and then your relationship starts to fail and then you all are on two different pages, you, in your mind, saying, this can work, I really want it to work and you're probably expecting things to get back on track...and he's out dating other women (still with you???) telling them you're not "THE ONE"...you should leave it alone until you know he's done with her...remember "What goes around comes around"...
2006-12-21 01:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Priceless Purity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he amazing?
Going behind the back of his girl friend, and not willing to break up as “a security issue"!?
Ditch him, he will treat you the same way!
2006-12-21 01:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do know that *if* he becomes your b/f...you will be the one is cheating on next, right? Even if all he has told you IS true. His lack of values should be a red flag. I mean has he told his g/f any of this? Trust me guys will say anything to get in your pants. If is really into you and is worth your time...he will end it with his g/f to date you. Goodluck and keep in mind you allow ppl to treat you how they do....
2006-12-21 01:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by broc1212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋