2006-12-21 01:24:25 · 36 answers · asked by TINABANEENA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, this does not mean that you are not good enough for him.
A lot of people, both men and women share this fantasy. The swinging lifestyle isn't for everyone. But for those who are secure in their relationship, it can add a level of passion and excitement that many find very rewarding.
Having said this, if you are not okay with the idea, and your boyfriend continues to push the issue, it suggests that he doesn't respect your feelings about the matter. If that is the case, then I would say it's time for you to consider ending the relationship and finding someone who will treat you better.
Remember, for a relationship to succeed, it must include mutual love, respect and trust. If your relationship with your boyfriend doesn't involve all three of these things it will never last.
Best of luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-21 02:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. The fact that he shared this with you means that he has opened up to you...how you react to that is your decision.
Nearly all guys are genetically programmed to desired a threesome - it probably comes from an inherent urge to feel power and control. It doesn't mean that you're not "good enough", it's just a sexual fantasy that he has. If you can separate the sexual fantasy from the love (which I presume he has for you), then you should at least talk about it. Whether it happens or not is up to both of you, but communicating about each others fantasies is quite healthy! To deny him that communication is not healthy, close minded and not fair to either of you.
2006-12-24 06:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it means that you are not good enough for him. I've never come across that when it comes to threesomes.
From personal experience with threesomes and moresomes here is how I see it:
If he is looking for a FMF threesome and he is not open to the idea of a MFM threesome also, than it is probably just a selfish desire to fulfill his little fantasy. This is the wrong reason to do it.
If he is looking for a FMF threesome and IS okay with a MFM also, than the idea of group sex is probably his thing. He can seperate love from sex and he gets excited at the idea of more than two people being involved. The idea of you being pleasured is as exciting to him as the idea of himself being pleasured. This is the right reason to do it.
2006-12-21 16:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy most likely…… no doesn’t mean you’re not good enough at all.. Some women have a fantasy 2 –3 men !
That said, DO NOT let him talk you into anything you are NOT wanting to do! If he continues pressing for his “fantasy” re-evaluate what you want in a man. He may not be what you really want.
2006-12-21 01:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend wants to have a threesome because it's every mans dream. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough he just wants to add some variety to the relationship. If it's not for you then tell him that but if you've had desires to be with another man or another woman you need to sit down and discuss it with him. If he wants to **** another woman, you should be able to **** another man...
2006-12-21 01:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem with my boyfriend too.I think it's some kind of fantasy thing that all men dream about having two or more women at the same time it doesn't mean that your not good enough for him it's just that everyone has to have something in life that they dream of doing I'm sure you have something that you want to do that you dream of too. there just hopes and dreams but some people in life are lucky to have their dreams come true and some aren't that's just life and there just fantasies but no fantasy can take the place of something that's already there alive and in the flesh think about it. if you want to hook it up( if you roll like that)then do it. if not let him fantasize
2006-12-21 01:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by madadanabitch 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is thinking that TWO is better than one. Most likely he's watched some porn and seen that happen so he thinks it will be some amazing experience for him but in reality its going to be awkward and weird and it will leave both of you feeling unfulfilled or it will cause you both to head down a path of sexual debauchery that will never end.
He needs to get back into reality. You need to not grant that desire. If he doesn't like it, he will never be satisfied anyway and you should move on!
2006-12-21 01:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Trevor 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is not what a serious relationship is about. He's a worthless puke. And he will never make good material for a husband or father. He'd be a good porn star, cheater, self-centered. I'm sure u'd be better off w/o him.
2006-12-21 02:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by kimmycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to have a threesome. Don't know why. Just installed in our brains I guess. It doesn't mean that you are not good enough for him. Just something a lot of guys fantasize about. Don't take it personal. Take it personal if you do have it and he doesn't pay attention to you at all.
2006-12-21 01:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tedo 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Why do assume you're not good enough for him? You need to work on your self-esteem. Otherwise, you're going to keep involving yourself with bums like your "boyfriend".
Concerning a man who loves you, here's a clue: A man who truly loves you doesn't want to share you with anyone. He wants you to be exclusively his to love.
2006-12-21 01:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋