general, like i said when talking about the child support he tells me that i need to supply him with everything and he doesnt have to buy anything cause he pays child support (i have only gotten 58 dollars from him in all) so basically i am still paying for everything myself. ok now i am getting calls from him at all hours of the night demanding that i bring his son to him last night it was 2 am and i know he was drunk. what can i do to get this drama with him to stop i am 11 weeks pregnant now (no its not his) and i cant really handle all this stress. any advice would be appriciated. oh its Thursaday and his day to take him, i already told him on Tuesday that he couldnt take him until he had everything he needed for him at his house, should i stick to that tonight as well or give in and supply him everything?? any advice would be great.
thanks so much.
2006-12-21 01:21:46 · 9 answers · asked by puppy love 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call the police and file harassment charges on him. If you have a custody order it should say he can call at normal times to talk with his son or to check up on him, normal hours mean between 9am and 9pm. Even if your court order does not state this you can still nail him on those late night calls. Second, it really depends what your court order for custody says. If it doesn't say you are responsible for driving your son to him then tell him to go pound salt. If it does, just follow the times listed. You do not have to be harassed, File for a restraining order, file harassment charges, or you can file for a protection from abuse if you are afraid he will hurt you because he calls when drunk. But do not give in because if you do then he will keep this behavior up. Good luck to you.
Also if he has a court order stating he has visit's with your son, you really cant deny him his visit you will be in contempt of court. Most police will not get involved in these cases when it comes to visits because its domestic. What exactly does he need for a visit? Diapers? Some Food? I know it stinks he isnt paying child support, but if he is a good dad to your son, reguardless of your relationship with him, if he is a good dad, then supply a few diapers, and a bit of food, tell him thats all you can do and he needs to bring him back or buy more before he runs out. If he isnt a decent father then you really need a lawyer and to get this to the attention of the courts. If he returns him a mess. Then call your local CYS or CPS office and report the neglect.
You will look better in the eyes of the court if you foster the relationship between father and son, but if you try to hold all the cards it will come back to bite you in the butt.
Also as to your child support. Have you filed with your domestic relations so they can do a wage attachment so you are not dependent on him handing you the money and having him in control of what and when he will give you money?
2006-12-21 01:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda familiar. When he calls, don't answer, let the answering machine take it. Turn the ringer off. But I would not try to withhold him from seeing his kid, that would only make things worse for you. Hopefully you have legal forms that state visitation schedules, if not, I suggest that you see an court advocate about that, if he continues to call, harrass you, file an order of protection. You also need to file for child support through the courts and have this done legally. Do it the right way through the court system and have your butt covered, if he doesn't obey the orders, then he will be in trouble.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 09:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Trese 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seems you need a legal aid lawyer or something. In Texas, you could go and no cost to you, get alimony from him. Of couse, he would only have to pay what they say and no more. Also, depending on your state, all the money that he pays you will not count if you get a lawyer to try to "legally" get alimoney. It may be possible to try to recoup a couple of years back alimony too. BUt it all depends. But looks like you need a lawyer. And then getting pregnant again, you need mental help with the husband.
2006-12-21 09:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he can take him when he pays. He will have to get the police to come over if you refuse. Every time he calls, document it for the court's records. If he has a warrant out for him not paying, the police will take him away. Don't let him slack off, be tough and demand that he provides what is required before he gets to see the child.
2006-12-21 09:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not send your child over there if the dad is getting drunk. if he isn't paying support, go to court. document the calls (talk to a lawyer to make sure you go about this the right way.) Do what you need to do to make sure your child is safe. Talk to the lawyer asap.
2006-12-21 09:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by L. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is your son and it sounds like youneed to turn that boy into child pertective services to me and if he is not paying much you dont have to let him see that baby and if you think that you son is in harms way with the dad then no you dont have to let the baby go and it sounds like the baby is in harms way to me call the cops know and inform them what happened this morning and that you dont feel comfertable with him taking your son tonight and they will help trust been there done that more than once
2006-12-21 09:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and put a stop to this nonsense. You supply him with nothing.
2006-12-21 09:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to do what is best for the kid. Lawyers and Judges are geared for that. That is what they do.
2006-12-21 09:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a lawyer & a shrink
2006-12-21 09:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋