My bf and I were having a long distance relationship. in the first month he was ok. He emailed me and contacted me. I thopught things were all ok. However a month later, he started having less contact. I was not able to get hold of him at all. He is a grad student and his father is sick so he is extremely busy with his life. Before I left, he promised me everything but things have all changed now. I was hoping that he would call me but he never did. Today he just wrote me an email to tell me that he has been feeling alone since long ago. He feels neglected and he is extremely depressed. He thinks the relationship is like a job that he was not doing thing he was happy with. In the email he decided to be open to me for the first time that he is depressed and he's been feeling alone. He doesn't feel the same way anymore, he thinks we are too different people. He is moving on and I was shocked to get this....I don't know what to do and please help!!
2006-12-21 01:13:04 · 6 answers · asked by Citychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he is extremely upset and depressed now. He didn't even wanna see anything that has to do with me. (I sent him e-cards, pics but he never even open those) I tru;y hope that he can realize that all I wanted was for him to be happy. All I wanted was to help him with his situation (but I couldn't do nothing). I truly miss him and I appreciate all your answers to help.
2006-12-21 03:23:36 · update #1
Believe me, long distance romances are hard to keep. It sounds like he wants to move on, but is not 100% sure. It sounds like he wants a woman who is there not only in e-mails and phone, but physically too. Either call him or e-mail him and dump your heart out to him if you don't want to lose him. If this doesn't work, at least you can't say you didn't give it your best effort.
2006-12-21 01:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation and one I am actually dealing with too. My bf is in Seattle, and I am in Los Angeles. I cannot really give much advice, except to say that if he is worth fighting for, then you should put yourself out there and let him know you are not ready to give up on the relationship.
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2006-12-21 02:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Liz C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
circulate on. definitely i will no longer be able to verify myself staying with somebody for just about 2 years and not understanding who they have been. I did the internet relationship element and interior the tip I basically did no longer like the assumption of no longer having the flexibility to charm to close out with the guy i replaced into seeing. he's longing a woman buddy the place he lives. Him being in a protracted term, long distance relationship with a woman he's not in any respect met possibly replaced into attending to him after a at the same time as.
2016-10-15 09:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by dickirson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know its tough. Im kinda in that phase right now. Be strong sweety. If I were you, move on and dont look back if you already know its already over. You can give it one last chance but make sure that if it doenst work out, dont ever go back to him. I usually talk to friends to keep me busy. If not read post like these yahoo questions to sharpen your mind for your next relationship. You can always email me if you want a one to one talk to a stranger. Im having problems too, maybe we can help each other out....We can make it through....
2006-12-21 03:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him first and tell him that you dont want to break up with him.
If you can go the distance to be where he is now just to prove that you really love him and want to save the relationship then DO IT...
2006-12-21 01:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
indeed you are.how can he open up today that he is depressed?he has negelected himself cause he can even allow deppression,open your eyes and lookout for what you deserve.communication is cardinal when it dwendles ......somthing dear.The best advice do whats best for your heart,but be careful you both seem not honest and honest is the best policy.If you havnt done anything wrong let that chap move on....
2006-12-21 01:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋