Is it better to have one child or two?.?

Question

Did you ever regret having the second child?. Was it a lot more difficult with two than one?.

Answer 1

I was an only child also and I have 2 boys it's great I was afraid it would be more difficult,lot more to take care of but it was great because my oldest one was 3 then so he loved to help out with the new baby it made him feel like a big boy *smile*.
and they play so good together don't get me wrong we have our moments but mostly it's great they keep eachother occupied all the time!!

Answer 2

Well...that is a personal choice. If you are looking forward to a calm and serene life..then have just one...but be prepared for the fact that you will be it's only at home playmate.
When I had my second one, I didn't necessarily find it to be more difficult, just a lot more non-stop action. Which can be fine if you have the energy. It was nice to have someone for my daughter to play with and of course there are times when one or even both of them can drive me up the wall...but I have NEVER regretted it. In fact, after 5 years..I later married a man who also had two children...and we are expecting our first one together in about 3 weeks....That will make child #5 in our house! :)
And, once again...there are times when they can all drive me crazy...but all in all...it is wonderful to have a house full of laughing and giggling kids! The age difference between them is a factor though. My two are 2 and a half years apart and opposite sex...so they did play well together as little ones....but they are now 10 and 12. Now they protect one another, and care for one another...but they don;t have much in common as far as interestes and playing goes. My two step children are only one year apart and are now almost 9 and 10...also opposite sex. They play well together still....but also fight alot. The good news is that the 10 year old is a boy, and so is my 10 year old...so they have a great time together! The girls however...they aren't as close. The 12 year old is usually irritated because the 9 year old is always getting into her stuff etc. etc.
This next one is a girl and will be a whole decade younger than the rest...I am a bit afraid that she may become lonely at times.
We have a huge dining room table and I am proud to say that every single evening....it is a great reward to see all of those smiling faces during our family dinners!
Good luck to you!

Answer 3

OK. For a parental stand point, I don't think many people are going to "regret" having their second kid. They may wish they were more financially or emotionally stable, but I doubt they actually regret it.

On a child's standpoint, I'd say 2. That way, they'll have someone to play with and someone in the family they know they can confide in. I know some people who have 3 children and wished they had 4 or just 2 only because kids tend to "pair up" and one is always left out. I am the last of 3 children and I was left out...but I am sure that is due to the age difference..my sister was 7 years old (and hated me for being born b/c she wanted another brother instead of sister) and my brother was 5 years older than me (and up until I was 4 or 5, he was my best friend). After I started school, my brother and sister teamed up on me, but they were closer in age. Now, we all get along great. I coudn't imagine NOT having a brother or sister. When I was little I'd wish I was an only child (for obvious reasons), but now, it's great to have someone to talk to about the "crazy parents" etc.

So it's really just a personal preference and try to make sure you are ready. I think it could be easier if your first is a bit older. They will be able to help out and feel good about it if they are at the right age.

Answer 4

I had two children from a prev marriage and they were 3.6 yrs apart. My youngest is 10. I now am 33 wks preg and will be stopping at 3. I would love to have another but this pregnancy has not gone well at all and the Dr and both husband and I feel that this is it.

My father also had two from a prev marriage. Myself and and my brother. He also got remarried and had another child which makes him 20 years apart from me. My child and my little brother are only about 8 months apart. Although my father could have had more children he opted not too. Now he wishes he did because my little brother is so lonely. I would love to have more but just will not be able after this one. My brother who is now 14 is even here as I type spending time with his nephew and niece. It's funny cause they say they feel more like cousins. lol . My little brother says he wishes he had a brother or sister that grew up with him in the same home. I guess that's why I try to spend as much time with him as I can. Good luck on what you decide. Only you can answer what is really right for you and your family.

Answer 5

There is no right nor wrong answer! It's more wheither your family can afford to have additional children? Yes u can scrap by, but it's kind of nice to be comfortable and stable.

Ask yourself: Will it put a strain on my marriage? Emotionally, Financially r u secure, is your spouse? One child, two children households all require the same parenting skills. A single child can have just as fufilling life as a two child household. If you have two children, what kind of age difference do u consider to be best for u?

Personally, the more the merrier was my attitude. My friend had the same attitude but her hubby didn't want more kids, she had triplets naturally. They fell on financial difficulties: it was not pretty. But friends rallied and helped them. Many a night we'd take turns delivering goods in the night, ring the door bell and leave. Neighbors contact local utilities and would pay for their utilities. Kind of all the nice things they did prior their pregnancy was repaid back. It was just done without fanfare or thanks. Eventually they got back on their feet financially. But the resentment, the tricking him to get pregnant scenario backfired. They did divorce. So she became a successful single parent household. But it was very, very hard. All the kids were great except one. Wheither it was the divorce, rebellion, life, and lack of companion skills or combination who knows... but she still is trying.

Lesson learn- having children is a couples decision. So make the decision together.

Answer 6

never regretted it, and am pregnant with a third. It really is just a matter of how YOU feel.
I think it's great for a child to have a sibling. They learn SOO much. My opinion is they learn to deal with life a little better in regards to social interaction and relationships. And when they are older, they will always have each other to count on. I wish i had more brothers and sisters. That is why i wanted at least three children. I would love more, but you almost have to win the lottery for that!!
It's really up to you, each have their good and bad points, but i would never regret my children. they are such a gift!

Answer 7

Two is better they have someone to confide in when they get older and most children don't want to be an only child. Only children are usually very spoiled, and lonely too..Not all but, most do. I never,ever regretted having a second child,it has been wonderful!!!

Answer 8

I am an only child and even tho I have other family and friends I find myself very lonely sometimes. When My dad died I had to handle all the arraignments alone. that was the hardest thing I ever did. I have three children and I remind them everyday how important they are to me and to each other. My husband has 7 sisters and brothers, when they get together there is always a party. When there is tragedy in the family ...they all stick to gether and no one goes at it alone...I love that and envy it at the same time. I' m lucky to be a part of their family. I think having one child is the most selfish thing any parent can do.

Answer 9

Depends totally on the parent situation -
If there are 2 parents and one can stay with the child until time to start school , 2 can be good . . .
but if the child will be in daycare and raised by strangers 40 hours a week , then it is rude to the child . No child should be in that situation if at all avoidable .

Answer 10

I am an only child...and it was not always fun. I wanted a sister to confide in, conspire with, and go to for advice. Or wanted a brother to pick on me lol, protect me and be there when I needed advice on guys. I would say having at least two children is good. I have three and wouldn't change a thing