i dont know i am very confused. i mean the other night we almost did have s e x but i didnt want to do it so i gave him head instead. he wanted to f*** me up the a**. should i let him do it there? would i still be a virgin if i had anal sex? does it really hurt? please i need lots of answers!! thanks!
2006-12-21 00:54:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, you should have sex when and if you want to, not just to get it over with. I can't imagine anal sex would feel good. Don't do anything you don't want to. If your boyfriend loves you he shouldn't make you do anything you aren't ready to do.
2006-12-21 00:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of Three 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex yet, then you shouldn't have sex just to please your boyfriend. If you aren't ready to have anal sex you shouldn't either. It is very painful the first time few times, and can be pretty gross.
What do you want? you seem to be worried with only what your boyfriend wants. You count too, what you want matters also. If he is going to be rude over this, he may say something like "then you don't really love me." he's only being selfish when he says that. He doesn't love you if he pulls those tricks.
Hope that helps,
Monkey :)
2006-12-21 09:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG, honey...... please do not have intercourse of any kind with them guy. It's not good for you mentally or physically at this point. Do not lose your virginity just to get it over with a guy who doesn't love you, appreciate you or respect you. Save that for that man you love and want to marry. I know this sounds corky but there is nothing wrong with keeping yourself for marriage. And about the oral sex thing. You shouldn't be doing this either. All this guy wants is sex any way he can get it and he doesn't care with who. Sorry honey, wake up! He doesn't care if he hurts you. Love yourself more and tell him NO to anything!!!!!!!
2006-12-21 08:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell no!!
thats the most sacred thing that you have besides ur soul.
and once its gone, its gone..you cant redeem it.
save your virginity for someone that you love and care about..it will be more special. seems like he just wants to have sex and not care about your feelings. if he really loves you, he will wait until you are ready....if i could turn back the hands of time, i would still be a virgin, cause i have yet to be in "love" with anyone and i am 31 years old!
2006-12-21 08:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who's given someone head isn't really a virgin anymore. That's just splitting hairs.
No, don't let him go near your b*tt until you've had a lot more sex. It takes know-how and preparation.
If you're worried about having intercourse, then don't do it. What's the rush?
2006-12-21 08:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by TimmyD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready...he might not be the guy. anal sex would still leave you virgin...breaking the hymen in the vagina is what loses your virginity. let's just say anal sex the first time..is not that comfortable...be sure to have plenty of lubrication if you do!!
2006-12-21 08:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by hrt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is pressuring you to have sex with you. The fact that you are confused about this and compromising so that you don't have to shows me that you KNOW you're not comfortable with the situation. My advice is this: get out. Sex isn't something that you should do "just to get it over with." That's a really stupid reason, and will likely lead to all sorts of regret. Get out of this relationship and find yourself someone who will respect you for who you are, not for what you can offer them.
2006-12-21 08:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he cares that much for you. Having sex with him isn't going to make him care any more for you, but it will change your relationship a LOT. If you're not sure, don't do it, you're having reservations for a reason. I'm not saying "oh you have to wait to find the guy you're going to marry" - but at least wait for a guy who you're really willing to give it to. It's a special thing, don't waste it.
2006-12-21 08:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mordent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - not unless you really want to. If you have anal, you are technically still a virgin.
2006-12-21 09:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, IF YOU ARE NOT READY DON'T LET HIM PRESSURE YOU INTO DOING ANYTHING YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO. IT IS YOUR BODY DO WITH IT WHAT YOU WANT.IF HE REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOUR DECISION NOT TO HAVE SEX. ANAL SEX WILL HURT WORSE THAN VAGINAL SEX.I THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE REGULAR OLD SEX (WHEN YOU ARE READY) BEFORE YOU TRY ANAL SEX.IF HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND MAYBE YOU NEED A NEW BOYFRIEND.
JUST REMEMBER WHEN YOU DECIDE TO DO IT MAKE SURE IT , IT IS WITH THE RIGHT PERSON AND REASONS AND USE ((((((((BIRTH CONTROL)))). HAVE A NICE DAY! GOOD LUCK !
2006-12-21 08:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋