My daughter's 3rd birthday is coming up and I want to inclde her wishlist in the invites but some of my family is complaining that it's not proper.So I'm asking other parents if they think it's an okay thing to do.
2006-12-21 00:26:47 · 18 answers · asked by Sweetbear 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is improper. This is a party, not a fundraiser/giftraiser. They will give what they wish to give. Anyone who ASKS what she wants can be told, but it's incredibly gauche for you to solicit.
2006-12-21 00:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it would be proper. she's only 3, the other children coming do not have jobs, how are they going to afford a gift? :-) Seriously, I wouldnt do it because it will make people feel like if they dont bring a gift, they cant come. Trust me, at 3 she couldnt care less, and won't know what is going on anyway, other than a lot of people in the house! I didnt have big parties for my son until he was old enough to appreciate them (about 4 or 5) up until then, we had cake and ice cream with close family. Big parties for toddlers are more for the parents benefits than the kids.
2006-12-21 08:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is tricky because you know everyone will bring a gift....although you're not supposed to expect a gift....and to put in a wish list is going to be seen as rude by some.....but its up to you. If you want to include a wish list, I would add a little note inside the invite that reads something like "while a gift is not a requirement or expected. "Her Names" Wish list is...and a couple of the items.....or you could just wait for the people invited to call and ask (which is what normally happens) if there is anything she would like in particular for her birthday
2006-12-21 09:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should give the wishlist in the invites. Instead you should call them and then they will get whatever your daughter wants. Then all the other parents won't feel like it's not an okay thing to do.
2006-12-21 08:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a terrible idea. It is rude. I like to throw parties for my boys' birthdays but I feel that already have enough toys. They get plenty from their grandma's and cousins. So, I always ask people to NOT bring a gift. I tell them all we want is their company to celebrate the special day. I think it looks so tacky to ask for specific gifts. If I received an invitation like that I'd assume you were only inviting me to a get a gift and I'd most likley not show up.
2006-12-21 08:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's the proper thing to do because it may seem like you are inviting people just to bring a gift. If people want to know her wish list, they will call you and ask for ideas.
2006-12-21 08:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Growl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adding a wish list would be a bit tacky but I don't see why you can't put in the invitations something to the effect of "Mary enjoys arts and crafts and her My Little Ponies" to give people ideas.
2006-12-21 09:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it would be acceptable to include it with the invitations, but if someone asks what she would like for her birthday then don't hesitate to tell them something off of her list. Most people will ask you what she wants anyway so just have the list handy so you can tell them something that she likes.
2006-12-21 08:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not proper ettiquette. It would be rude. If people want to call and ask you what she wants, then it's OK to tell them. But you do not send a wish list out with an invitation.
2006-12-21 08:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TACK-A-RAMA!!!!
Please do not do that. It is poor etiquette. When the parents contact you to respond to the party, if and only if they ask what your daughter wants or they are looking for good ideas for her then it is okay.
So what if she got a duplicate gift or something - that is what gift receipts are for. You can always return or exchange.
2006-12-21 08:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by sugar_pink_candy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋