How to keep peace of mind?

Question

I get extremely irritated when I find somebody behaving in a stupid/shameless way or when somebody misbehaves with me. Often i cannot react at the right moment and later I suffer from mental jitterings due to this. Unfortunately I live in such a surrounding that I have to face many instances which later give rise to bitter memories. For example I find some faculty members in our inst to be extremely stupid. I meet highly arrogant clerks offices whose behaviour I cannot tolerate. I feel extremely bitter. How can I handle this situation?

Answer 1

First, realize that you cannot control what other people do or say but you CAN control how you react to them, including your thoughts.

Second, practice changing your thoughts. Feelings come from thoughts. Change the thoughts and you change the feelings.

Third, memorize and use the following prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Fourth, get a copy of the book Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda and read it, taking notes.

Answer 2

I am 9 weeks as well and this is my first pregnancy so I completely understand the worrying aspect of it. You just want to assure your baby is okay. Your body is a natural safehaven for your unborn baby. Granted, there are complications that occur, but worrying and stress can only add to those complications. Relax your body, don't let yourself get too tense or worked up. When you start worrying just think back to the heartbeats and know that your baby is alive and healthy. If something were to happen to the baby, your body will eventually respond. Don't let that worry you though with every slight pain or discomfort you feel. Pregnancy is a time to be happy and joyful. When you are able to go buy some books and movies or scrapbooking/craft stuff to keep your mind on other things while you're home all day by yourself. Pick up some kind of hobby that will distract you from constantly worrying. Even though your mom had complications, that doesn't mean that you will! Enjoy your pregnancy and let this be a happy time, not a time of stress and worry!

Answer 3

Peace Of Mind At The Workplace

Work brings together people of different characters and behavior, and this often causes friction, resentment and stress. Sometimes the boss is too demanding, colleagues may be unpleasant, there might be too much work or the working conditions may not be comfortable. The job may be boring, there might be competition or envy between the workers or the customers may be uncongenial or unfriendly. No wonder there is tension and stress.

These are some of the reasons why most people eagerly wait for their vacation. Their vacation provides them a way to get out of their daily life and find some peace. The good news is that you do not have to wait for your vacation. You can learn to gain inner peace and enjoy every moment, right where you are. You can stop fretting and getting tense. You can experience peace of mind and happiness wherever you are. When your mind is peaceful, the whole environment become peaceful.

Now you probably wonder what you can do to make this come true. I am not going to talk here about meditation, though this is one of the best peace of mind tools. Below you will find some simple and easy to perform tips and suggestions to experience inner peace at your workplace.

You may not succeed at the first attempts, but if you keep on performing these suggestions earnestly, you will gradually begin to experience peace of mind. This peace will not only by inside you. It will spill over and influence your whole environment.

1) If the people you meet talk in a loud voice, are impolite and tense, you will probably react and behave accordingly, hereby raising the level of tension. On the other hand, if you stay calm, talk, act and react peacefully, people unconsciously emulate your behavior. You become a leading power, no matter what is your position at work.

2) Each day before you enter your workplace, repeat several times the following affirmation with feeling, faith and attention:
"My mind is peaceful throughout the whole day. I radiate peace around me. I talk peacefully, politely and with a smile. I choose to act peacefully".

3) Greet the people you meet at work.

4) Whenever you feel tension or anger building in you, take three deep slow breathes before any talking or action.

5) Pay attention to the words you think, say or write. Use only positive words.

6) Be polite.

7) Whenever you find yourself raising your voice, lower it immediately.

8) Talk in a medium pitch voice, not too loud or too low, and don't let the loudness or pitch of other people's voices influence yours.

9) Several times during your workday find a quiet place. It may be at your desk, or if it is not quiet enough there, it can be at the bathroom, an empty room or some other quiet spot. For several moments visualize a beautiful location that you love or some event that made you happy. Feel that you are there and enjoy the feelings that arise.

10) While working, concentrate on what you are doing. Put there your full attention. This will keep your mind off disturbing thoughts.

11) Don't waste your time and energy analyzing and thinking about people's motives and behavior, but rather try to improve your actions.

12) Before speaking with someone whom you dislike or fear, or someone who makes you feel tense or angry, take a few deep breathes and visualize the two of you conversing peacefully and harmoniously.


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Answer 4

You are not responsible for the behavior of others. As long as you watch your own, it shouldn't matter to you. It sounds as if you may be a bit unsure of yourself and are projecting your anxiety onto others. Maybe you feel these others, whom you call stupid and shameless are receiving more appreciation than you are. Ignore them and do the best you can. Don't get angry; it only hurts you.

Answer 5

Pl. disappear from the place immly. Do yogo and chat gayathri jabam daily. Make a habit to visit worship place. Most important is to believe god. All problems will resolve in due course.

Answer 6

peace of mind is in ur mind only,its a state of mind why u let others hang ur mind with their attitude,secondly ignore them and third and most important except ur follies also everybody is not at mistake may be they might feel ur behaviour stupid and above all believe in god do path pooja (pray) worship god as if he can heal the whole world he can also heal your wounds given by those absurd people and best of luck.

Answer 7

the mos stupid is to think that the others are stupid and you are not..... stop being arrogant yourself. take it easy and accept that there are other different points of view either than yours. and dont be stupid, shameless and arrogant.......it is your behavior that later wont be tolerate....just take it cool and dont considere you the best, we all have differnt points of view and evetyone should be heard

Answer 8

Stop sweating the small stuff. Look at your priorities and where they are...Try changing your attitude and maybe theirs will too. Try killing them with kindness, no I don't mean sarcasm, real kindness i.e. Good Morning, afternoon, evening....How are you today, Her let me help you with that. Always say thank you, even if you don't get the answer you want.....I think in time you will get greater peace of mind with this.......

Answer 9

The answer is in your head! Get down from your high horse, there is fun and wisdom in diversity. Come to think of it, guys like you are not much fun to be with either - highly critical, self righteous etc, etc.

Answer 10

difficult situation. u can not help unless you start ignoring such things...