i've known this girl for about 1 1/2 years. we've become good friends over time but i think shes taking advantage of me. it is not like i depend on her as an only friend but she only comes to me when no one is with her. she ignores me when shes with others. when shes in trouble she comes to me. i dont know what to do. i want to be there for her but she can be so clingy at times and she always expects me to undertand what shes going through and i can't. we had a pretty big fight or first and i thought it was about the dumbest thing. we're in boarding school so we were coming back from the town where the shops are and me and my other friend sort of sped up because we were late to catch the bus. she started acting so stubborn that she went so slow. i was stuck in the middle trying to make one speed up and the other to slow down. at dorms she got so mad at me and started crying and she expects me to say "im sorry". i cant do it anymore and we're rooming again next semester what should i do
2006-12-20 23:44:11 · 5 answers · asked by sanam9188 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You just need to clear the air and be honest with her for your sake. However, this won't solve your problem with her though but at least she'll know how you honestly feel. Since you're rooming with her again next semester, leave room for you two to at least communicate.
2006-12-21 00:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a type A personality and very narcasistic - thinks the world revolves around her. Her problems are everyone's problems, but when she gets what she wants she no longer needs you. They can be tough to handle. She's using you as a crutch and you're allowing it to happen.
The only thing I can suggest is when she comes bleeding her heart to you, just let her speak, and when she's done just say "Huh, I really don't know what to say to that". After a while she'll figure out that you're no longer her crutch and she'll move on to someone else.
2006-12-20 23:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes "tough love" is the best answer. Be friendly with her, but when she begins to act out for attention (crying, etc.) simply walk away, saying something like "I'll be back when you're done."
Don't be rude, but be firm in your stance that you're not going to be her doormat.
2006-12-20 23:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find a friend who's there for you.
2006-12-20 23:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ditch her
2006-12-20 23:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by ss1886 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋