i dont know what to do?

Question

a lot of my friends are angry at me for something i did to one of them. i would apologize of course, but i honestly dont know what i have done. they also refuse to tell me. I just want to understand and to know so that i can apologize. but its almost christmas, my chritmas party is being held day after next and it doesnt help that we dont see each other in school anymore because of the break. please help me im panicking.

Answer 1

I also think that new friends are in order.

Before that, though, some options:

--Approach the mother of the girl and ask her to get her daughter to talk to you about what's going on and what you can do or say to help mend the relationship.

--Face the girls, preferably as a group, and tell them that what you've told us and that you can't fix or apologize for something you did or said that you know nothing about and about which no one will talk.

--Also impress upon them that they cannot have it both ways.

--Realize that you may not really want to be part of a social group that treats others so unforgiveably badly--that certainly doesn't sound like who and how you are. So, "dumping them back" may be just as well.

You've been very honest and reasonable with them, so there's no good reason for you to let yourself be tortured by them any longer.

--Review your party list and reconfirm with everyone you invited that they are coming (or who among your "friends" may be lying to you about coming just to show you up).

Regardless of what happens after all of the above:

--Invite other people to the party who you may have overlooked as possible friends. What better time and circumstance to get to know them?

--Change the type of party it is if you're certain they're not going to show--instead of a holiday party with lots of people dancing, snacking, and such, make it a sit down dinner party (that's a very adult and mature thing type of party) or a buffet. Either way, it will a great setting for good conversation and getting to know others better.

Or, you might consider making it an outing to the local skating rink. the movies, etc. With those who do show up, it will still make it the holiday party of the season (if you and your family can afford it). Just don't let those girls hijack your party or your good time. They don't even sound as though they deserve to be your friend.

You have integrity, something they sorely lack. Like I said, they don't deserve you.

Answer 2

Dont panick, girls will be girls. As soon as one is upset or jealous is seems everyone in the pack is too. What you should do is call the person you think is really angry with you, and just start off by saying, hey, your my close friend, and I care if your upset, and recently its been feeling like your mad at me about something. If I did anything to hurt you, I'm so sorry. So whats been up, talk to me. And then give her some time to tell, ya. Now on one hand she might just be having some probs with other stuff and is unfortunately taking it out on you, or something you might of done, or something she has heard you have done has made her really angry. Just try and talk through it with her. An idea if everything seems to be kinda smoothed over. (So you can check and make sure that everything is ok, before the party)Have a little get together with the girls. Say that were all going to watch a Christmas movie or something like that. You guys can even bake some really quick and easy cookies to go with the movie. Everything should clear out on its own. Just try and clear things over with good intentions in mind, and then once it is over party till ya drop. But party safely! I hoped I could help! Happy Holidays!

Answer 3

really think about anything that you could have done to upset them, you might have taken no notice of something, but might have done it innocently... on the other hand, what sort of friends are they to side with one of you, and then refuse to give you a reason. REAL friends should be able to talk things through and reach an understanding. if they are unable to do so then that means that they are not worth the trouble. try to approach them again, and to apologise however you can, but stress them to let you know why. if they do not accept them, do not worry, as friends come and go, but very few will stay and take a special place in your heart.

Answer 4

Hey! Come on baby you know they're mad for some reason, right?
So, lets think, either you said something behind someones back and it got back to them or you hooked up with someone that someone elsed liked. These are the most likely the only possible reasons. In either case, apologies will do you no good, forget it. Show no weakness and party your butt off regardless who comes to your awesome party, it's their loss if they don't show. I'm sure they'll be at least a couple nice people worth celebrating wtih, and those people are you're homies/real frie3nds
no worries hun!
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Answer 5

If you don't see your friends at school then try to call them at home. Basically all you can do is say, "I would apologize if I knew what I had done wrong. I would never hurt you intentionally, and I would still like for you to attend my party". If that doesn't open up the lines of communication, at least you'll know you gave it a try. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it, unless someone tells you what the you possibly done,some time i have found you might have not done any thing, a jealous Friend may have said you done something bad and the rest believe it.Try asking the closest one you were with and Hope they might tell you and then you can act from that.Good luck.

Answer 7

If they don't give you the chance to talk to them, then you don't deserve them as a friend. True friendship means forgiveness.

Answer 8

send them email, and or message. tell them excuses. after christmas, everything light up.

Answer 9

get some new friends

Answer 10

time for new friends?