I just can't shift the feelings of mild depression now Im in 2nd trimester (18 weeks). Im convinced my relationship is not as good as it was, although nothing has happened to suggest this, I feel lonely, vunerable, insercure, ugly and boring. Im convinced my partner is bored with me being like this. I know most of this is in my head and I have spoken to partner about this, he says he loves me and nothings changed, that he is here for me. But i just cannot shake these feels off. I have been to doc, who says its just pregnancy hormones and it will get better. Did anyone else feel like this in 2nd trimester and did it get better?
2006-12-20 23:26:25 · 11 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I felt worse than you describe here. However I have two tumors in the womb with the baby and this has been by far the worst pregnancy and it's my third. Because I feel so bad, I would just stand in the shower and ball my eyes out. One of the tumors is as big as the baby at 5 months. To make things worse it is setting on my sciatic nerve. So there is a burning in my legs to my feet. Getting to the bathroom and feeding myself has been a nightmare. Finally I just broke down at the Dr's ofc and he gave me Prozac. Two weeks later I was doing allot better emotionally. Still had the same problems but I was able to cope a little better. Hope this helps you feel better because you should be rejoicing. Your relationship is fine and so is your baby. I still cry from time to time because of the pain but emotionally my husband says i am doing better. Not everyone needs drugs to help with their problem. Dr would of not placed me on them if he did not feel it was needed. Just take a deep breath and be thankful your not in my shoes. Even if you were it's not the end of the world. Smile your going to be a mommy and never once have I not been glad about that! No matter the pain I would do it again. Hugs, Hugs and more hugs to you. Hang in there.
2006-12-20 23:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's different for every woman. I'm 26 wks and I feel pretty good, except heartburn. I also get overly emotional sometimes (which is weird because I didn't during my first 20 wks or so). It may get better, but it might not. I feel less fatigue than the 1st 14 wks, but I'm not feeling a burst of energy. Don't worry about your partner, at least he cares enough to show concern! Just try to explain the best you can -- he'll never understand, it's a man thing. Congrats and remember this will all be over in a few months.
2016-05-23 04:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can u go to the local library & find books about pregnancy. Ck your ob-gyn office cause they have the most up todate info...u need to think how amazing u r! Yes your body is changing, will your ob-gyn approve of walking? Is there a local indoor pool u can just gently move in and get some mild excercise?
U need to be planning ur birth. Picking out names, having family baby u a bit. Do u like to read? Find a funny, short story or a love story. Make sure ur eating healty, alittle walking and then taking a nap to refresh ur self. The baby feels ur blue, so snap out of it. Don't think doom and gloom. Hormones do make some women predisposed to depression. Contact local mental health agency, don't suffer in silence. Let them offer u the support that ur doctor seems to be ignoring.
It's nautral to think ur partner doesn't find u attractive. Usually it's just the opposite of ur thoughts. He finds u extremely sexy. If the doctor says it's ok for sex and foreplay, then both of u take the time to connect. Allow him to cararess your nipples, u don't have to vaginal intercourse. U can lead the exploring and set the pace. Relax u won't be pregnant forever. U almost at the half way point, ur doing great. Gotta think positive, get plenty of rest, drink lots of water and follow ob-gyn instructions. Find a Mommy's to be group. Sometimes getting together to share the emotional journey gives u the true sense of identity.
2006-12-20 23:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by Staci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I got insecure in my second trimester. It does get better as long as you work at it. Read about having the baby and keep your mind on the excitement of the upcoming baby, where clothes that will make you feel comfortable/sexy. If the feeling gets more severe I wouldnt hesitate on going to see a psychologist just to help sort out the insecurities. Keep communication going with the partner and try to stay exciting, do things like movies and dates to keep the spark. Anyway GOOD LUCK an remember its all worth it in the end!!!
2006-12-20 23:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mommyof3 BGB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key now is to keep yourself busy and focused on positive things.
Communication with your partner is super important - let him know how you feel, find out how he feels...make sure you explain to him how you're hormones are probably out of whack right now and you need lots of lovin'.
Do some nice things together while you can - make a nice dinner or go out somewhere - treat yourself to some relaxation - pick up a hobby (I used to do puzzles while I was waiting for my son to be born - one of them was a 2000 piece mickey mouse mosaic puzzle that took me months to finish - what was nice is I had it mounted and framed for his room!) You could also try making blankets or basically do anything else that gets your mind off of negative things.
I remember the day when I could no longer wear my favorite jeans - sometimes going out w/a friend and getting some nice maternity clothes can be a great pick-me-up, too.
It does ease up as you get further along, but its important to stay ahead of your feelings. Talk with a supportive friend or family member. Write in a journal. And if it gets worse, keep talking to your doctor about it - they may be able to reccommend a counseler or suggest some classes you can take to help you feel more confident about having a baby and becoming a parent. (Lamaze, lactation, parenting basics, etc.)
Good luck!!
2006-12-20 23:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had it too. But I had it REALLY bad.
You Dr should not have sent you away without treating your depression. It can and probably will get worse. There are safe meds for depression while your preggo. Like wellbutrin its a class B drug which means its safe for a pregnant person to take and newborns from moms on the drug show no signs of withdraw.
I would suggest that to your Dr. He will know if its OK for you to take.
Please don't let this go ignored it can get worse and the pregnancy hormones don't help.
Then you have Post partem depression also!
Go back to the Dr Hun!
Good luck and things are not as bad as they seam!
2006-12-21 00:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey trust me we all go through it!! Everything changes when your pregnant. You get fatter which makes you feel ugly in everything you wear, you'll cry for anything and you feel like your never going to be the same person that you were before pregnancy. Don't worry your not going to be pregnant forever and trust your partner when he says he loves you and he's there for you! I know it's hard but you'll get through it. I'm going through it right now but this being my second child it's a little worse but i know things will get better. Hang in there and do what makes you happy and feel good. It helps!
2006-12-21 00:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i am going through it right now with my third pregnancy. i never had that problem with my last two. i think that we both need to talk to our obgyn about this because i hope that it's not a sign of possibly having post partum after the baby is born.
2006-12-21 00:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm yeah.... but im trying not to think about it as much as you did... just do some other things like doing scrap book for your baby etc. you will feel better believe me.... just think positive. positive and always positive.
2006-12-20 23:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetart18 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same way in my first pregnancy
2006-12-20 23:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋