I am going out for dinner tonight with 2 friends from uni. They both have babies (I do not as I dont want kids) and I know they will do nothing but talk about their kids all evening. Am I wrong to get irritated by this? I think it is bad manners to keep discussing the same thing every time we meet. Should I tell them they have half an hour to get all the baby talk out of the way or should I just keep on trying to change the conversation? It is really getting on my nerves now and I am thinking of stopping meeting up with them, to listen to the same boring dribble about babies aaaaargh !!!!
2006-12-20 23:11:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would tell the both of them how you feel. My wife has the same problem with the people she works with.
2006-12-20 23:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong to feel like this, but think of it like this. Their worlds now revolve around their little ones so that is all they have to talk about. I don't get out and about like I used to, I no longer work, so I can't talk about work and funny things that happened. In a way it is quite sad that I can only talk about my baby. It's not their faults that you don't want kids, at the end of the day they are your friends, surely you are interested in their lives?
Grin and bear it for a while then change the subject.
2006-12-20 23:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay for the first 30 - 45minutes grin and bear it. then after that you will have have to keep changing the subject. The thing is they are your friends so you can't be rude to them about it, and yes it is wrong and not nice for them to keep talking about their babies, but that's what they will keep doing regardless and if you say something then it will get both their backs up and they will not like you for it.
Just keep changing the situation about to things that are not of a baby nature, that's all you can do. And if they do keep going on and on about it well just keep poring the wine as its seems that you could well need it
2006-12-21 22:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay and natural for them to chat about their babies for a little while. But they should notice that you're not participating in the conversation as much--I would think a red flag should go off to them. You know, I have kids and NEVER talked about them to others unless someone asked me about them. I hate it when people talk about their kids all the time.
They think it's cute--and it is very cute and interesting to them--but they fail to realize that other people can't relate the same way.
You should probably let them know that you feel left out and ask could you talk about something that all can contribute to. If they're your friends, they'll understand and probably offer an apology. I bet they don't realize that they're doing it.
2006-12-20 23:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by reeses30135 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
their lives evolve around their kids so they have nothing else to talk about...just say in a nice polite way...."are we here to discuss kids tonight or are we going to enjoy ourselves and forget them for a few hours" if they get offended then call some other mates and arrange to meet them, i have mates like that too and it was just so boring, i wanted to forget about kids and just have some fun even though i had kids of my own, i mean were all stuck at home with kids around us day and night so the last thing we want is to be talking about them too....i know how you feel.....
2006-12-21 00:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them why they keep asking you to meet up but dont give you the chance to talk! Tell them that you dont have babies and that you dont want to talk about them all night. Maybe they dont even know they are doing it!? Hope you have a great night <3
2006-12-20 23:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you aint the only one.
People look at me like I'm nuts when I say I never want kids & listening to people go on & on about nappies & breast pumps & teething & first words & nappy rash & calpol & all the other cr*p drives me crazy...
Seriously, the only thing to do is grin & bare it if they're good mates but my heart goes out to you!
Maybe you could try to change the subject but if they're gung-ho parents like some of my chums, then you might have to join in raving on about how fantastic the new rusks or kiddie toothpaste is!!
Good luck.... Gaa-gaa-gooo-bloo*y-goo!!
2006-12-20 23:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Evil Snow White 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I see your point, but children are usually a big topic US parents seem to have. I would just not go out if it irks you that bad.
I can understand how it would be aggravating to you, but ya gotta realize that most parents are proud parents, and when you are around another person that has children, there will be talk about the kids.
If you just went out with one parent, it would not be so bad, seems how you have not had any children yet, and there would be a different "main topic".
Ya understand what I am trying to say here???
2006-12-20 23:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Answerer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just remember they are you friends and they have their own little family now and people do grow up into young women.
I would suggest in saying to them nicely, hey its a girls night out just to forget about everything to let our hair down not to talk about men, babies etc. maybe then they will get the idea in a nice way.
2006-12-20 23:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by the mrs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but until you have got a child you will never understand why they do that so just play along for some time then change the subject.Good luck
2006-12-21 03:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by TheMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋