ok my mother died back in 2003 giving birth to my baby brother and less than 1 year later he married another woman is that normal?
2006-12-20 22:49:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think that its abnormal. Your dad was probably just lonely.Do you like her?? I hope so. Some people can get over death sooner than others and he must be one of them. Not that he has forgotten about your mom, I'm sure he'll never do that. I hope everything is going ok for you. I'm sorry about your mom.
2006-12-20 22:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by pebbles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one who wears the shoe knows where it bites. It is easy for us to judge others without knowing what goes on in their mind. One year is considered as normal time for recovering from a loss of spouse if other things are normal. It can vary from person to person.
Your dad was left with a young baby whom he probably could not take care of becoz he could not stay at home like a mom does. So he might have married urgently. It does not mean that he did not love your mother. He must have considered the possibility that you may not like it but he had the baby's needs foremost in his mind.
Did you discuss this with your dad? You need to spend more time with your dad as both of you suffered an irreparable loss. He needs your understanding in his time of grief.
2006-12-21 14:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is neither normal or abnormal. People handle grief differently. Some go through all the processes more quickly than others. Your Dad probably worked through his faster than you did.
Please do not begrudge your Dad for wanting to have happiness in his life. He is not old, why should he stop living just because your mother had to?
For that matter, why should you? Honor your mother's memory, but live your life. She would want you to.
2006-12-21 08:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad will likely grieve for a very long time but what has happened has happened,,,you have been left without the care of a woman who loves you as he does and for any parent who wants all the best for their children ,this is very hard to accept,,he must feel she can do the job and actually wants the job of parent to you and your sibling(s) and that in itself is not to be sniffed at,,taking on another persons children has to be a serious decision and one which they will have talked over at great length,,he will get over his unhappiness much quicker if he can see you are all benefiting from her presence and love,,give her a chance to help all of you,,she isnt your mother but she could be the next best thing and for your brother,,she is all he will know.as long as your mothers memory is kept where it should be,,out in the open and able to be spoken of the chances are this could work out for all concerned,she cannot replace but she can try to make it easier for you all and that is worth something,,isnt it?
2006-12-21 07:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He must of missed your Mom so much that he just needed another spouse. I am sure that it was with no disrespect to your Mom. I am very sorry to here about what happened. How horribly sad. Is your step Mom nice? Is she good to you? I hope that she is. Maybe your Dad was lonely? I hope that it works out for all of you. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-21 06:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's normal?
This is not like he was cheating and mom's death left a huge hole in his life.
Presumably he found another person who he feels love with.
It is entirely possible that he felt lost and found a person who led him back to the world.
Its also possible that he needed help raising children.
This experience was trumatic. We all react differently.
But normal? What's normal?
2006-12-21 07:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse it's quite normal, your mom died, leaving your dad with a small baby to care for, he needed help, this has in no way anything to do with the love he had for your mom. it is normal to want a life like the one he had with your mom. no one can ever replace your mom but life does get lonely by yourself.
2006-12-21 10:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men usually marry quicker than woman because they don't want to be alone. Good for him if he found someone to share his life with and have help raising a child too.
2006-12-21 07:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know maybe he figures thats his way of grieving..Or maybe he thought it would ease a broken heart..Do you think he was seeing her before your mom died? Try and talk to your dad in private about your feelings.
2006-12-21 06:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abnormal but I see how hurt you could be.
But your dad deserves to be happy so try to be happy for him, some spouses never remarried and are very unhappy.
2006-12-21 07:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋