2 week ago we were on holidy thing have been stale with me and hubby for some time now, no afection or anything for ages...
on holiday a man where stayed at got my attention, he had b4 wen we went here we been b4, but i always smiled nice n walked away, but not this time he was kind to me , made me feelspecial, thing my husband didnt and hasnt done for ages.... thing is i ended up kissing this man, i no its bad but it felt so right at the time, now im home im really depressed, sad, i wish i was back on holiday where i was so happy is this the end of marrige we have 4 kids toghter im so confused
2006-12-20 22:36:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds obvious that you are bored with your life. maybe you need time apart and see if you miss your hubby, don't go for the full blowen divorce just go out without him, go out with your friends, even try a wk end away alone. you might feel as though you are bored with the same old day in day out routine and not your hubby. couldn't you talk to your hubby explain how you feel and try to get some umppppf back into your lives. maybe he feels the same way and awaiting for you to say something. having 4 kids must be very hard work i find only 2 is enough with all the heart aches and the cooking ,cleaning and attending to them when they are hurt emotionally. i feel for you Hun but my advice is before you do anything drastic try talking that's the best policy at least then if it don't work out he cant say you didn't try.
good luck x
2006-12-21 00:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by kjw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have four kids with this guy and it sounds like he is just another guy and any other guy you see that you think its cute could take you away. Sounds like your not good enough for your kids and your husband and if you don't snap out of this malaise your in your going to at least lose your husband. You are in a relationship with your husband and sometimes that can be alot of work. Grow up and stop fantasizing about other men and start making things really happen in your marriage.
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-20 22:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously bored with marital life at the moment. You seem stuck in a rut and probably any man who paid you some attention would seem attractive, as you aren't getting any at home! It's time to make up your minds about what you want. You could try spicing things up at home, get your hubby to do new things, go to new places, try new things etc. If he doesn't want to, then I guess it might well be time to move on. Better to go now than make you both suffer for months and months to come...
2006-12-20 22:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sassysaz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do need to address the problems with your husband, but this doesnt mean that you life with this new guy would be all smiles and roses....holiday romances dont often end up with long term relationships.
Do you want to work on your marrage?? It is your choice. You can either chose to stick to the 'till death do us part' rules or look somewhere else for happyness.
In the long run...its 100% your choice, perhaps you could talk with your husband and see how he is feeling....does he even realise how up happy you are....if he idi perhaps he would work to make you fall in love with him all over again!
Good luck chick
2006-12-20 22:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by cafrin100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad about ... we cant tell what right or wrong
it looks like ur relationship with ur husband has been fallen asleep and u could try to wake it up a little bit ... try to do new things , talk with him , one of the reasons of this sleep is that we do not talk to each other
give ur marriage another chance .... if u see that there is nothing to sort it out u can think about what u will do for the future !
i wish u luck and merry xmas !
2006-12-20 23:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure you no longer have feelings for you're husband and no chance of ever regaining what you had when you first met then you're marriage sounds like it is over, but do not go for the first man who gives you some attention, give yourself time for yourself and be sure that it is what you want. Good Luck
2006-12-20 22:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by braveheart321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason your confused is because you think love is sex. that is not what love is that is what the world is telling you and it's a lie. Love is more than that and committment is missing these days. sometimes love is doign and the feeling comes later. kissing another man may feel good now but it will be a trainwreck later. you have four kids. think about someone besides yourself. Grow up and be an adult!
2006-12-20 22:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it doesnt mean you dont love your husband, it just means youre bored, and as a consequence, yu want to play around and become a cheap ****.
well, thats upto you, but, your loving dependable husband will, if hes got any balls, throw you out ontot he streets, where johnny come lately will eventually dump you after hes gotten bored with you.
we all like to be chased... (as opposed to chaste) its the thrills of desire and wanting... its an illusion. the grass is always greener..no it isnt, its just green... but you wont kniow that till you get there, and for most, its a one way journey.
and what about your kids, do they like johnny newguy? will he want them to call him daddy... will he be interested in anytihg you do apart from lying down... i doubt it.
blokes are blokes, they'll fork frogs if they could stop them hopping long enough... and you and your new interests are no different.
try working on it with hubby... it takes two to tango,
2006-12-20 23:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You starve for affection. My suggestion would be for you to have a heart to heart talk with your husband about how you feel, and see if the two of you can get things worked out. I trust that you still love your husband.Flings are NOT the answer to happiness.
2006-12-20 23:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not the end it just sounds like the flame in your marriage needs to be lighted again, why not go for some counseling or read some books on how to improve your marriage, God Bless
2006-12-20 22:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋