...I got back home from a family outing and called "a friend" that was coming to my house to get away from the city for a few days. I was asked why I did not answer my phone and when i explained that i did not know where my cell phone was and I was not at home to answer the house phone, this "friend" informed me that she had left some messages. I found 10 calls and 6 messages 3 of which were very, very nasty and abusive with stuff like "You better not call my Mo***r F****** phone ever again,you Fu****g B****." and many other slurs and crulitys.After I heard the messages, she acted like it was my fault and demanding to know if I was going to drive to get her so she could stay at my house and get a break from staying at her momma's. What is wrong with this picture? Help please?
2006-12-20 22:24:52 · 17 answers · asked by moonflower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel this person is going through some personal problems and is taking it out on you.
Depends on how you want to handle the situation. If you want to help, pick her up, talk to her and when she is cool, explain that you were hurt by her messages .
If you cant handle the outburst, tell her politely but firmly that you would not want her company and not to come.
2006-12-20 22:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by JDGuru at work 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry God sees and hears all. We should not rush to judge.In your wording alone it's not your FRIEND. Also, when you slipped in the remark about the MOTHER, that said a lot.
I know what you mean though. In the pass three weeks I have saved 115 calls from the same person, I thought it was love.
2006-12-21 16:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're going to do exactly what she wants by not calling her "Mo***r F****** phone ever again". She's abusive, rude and clearly needs psychiatric help. Stay as far away from her as physically possible.
2006-12-21 06:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Leiani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt go get her. Seems like she has got some personal issues or something. If she is going to be that rude to you , you dont need her as a friend anyway. Friends are supposed to be there for you. Not B**ch you out. I am sure you can find better friends than that. hope this helps
2006-12-21 06:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by barbie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi...
(be brave for I don't mince words...)
Yours is a master-slave relationship with her (borrowing the lingo from computer networks...lol)
She 'thinks' she is your master and you 'would' act as the slave.
Wake up and smell the coffee. The world does NOT belong to that 'friend'. You are a human and report only to the GOD...or not.
Of course, hierarchy is always present and maybe she has more ranking than you----then so be it.....try to increase confidence, and stay away from her.......
Next, visit these two site.......hope would help, helped me certainly :D
http://web.tickle.com for self analysis
http://changingminds.org for applied psychology in very easy to read text.
hope it helps..........regards,Gopal
2006-12-21 06:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt drive to pick her up just to give her a break from her moms. sounds ungrateful and using to me. i dont think i could make the effort to answer her calls anymore either
2006-12-21 06:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your so called friend is rude, crude and lewd and a friend wouldn't do that. You need to re-evaluate what a friend is and tell that thing bye bye
2006-12-21 06:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a friend....stay away from someone that abusive...she'll bring you down.
2006-12-21 06:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't and will never be everybody's baby sitter.
stay away from those FU^^^ERs
exception (mom and children)
2006-12-21 06:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by bigstevesfriends 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you don't appreciate being abused like that and if she's going to treat you like crap, you don't want her in your home. she'll have to find someone else to stay with.
2006-12-21 06:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋