start snooping around and try to find out the truth? I dont want to invade his privacy, but I have very good reason to think he is cheating and I need to find out for sure. Talking to him doesnt help at all. He is completely irrational. What should I do?
2006-12-20 21:37:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We all learn from our mistakes and I have made this one in the past. If you have tried to discuss it with him you made the correct first step. I've snooped in the past when I had suspicions and it led only to further distrust. It wasn't until after the relationship ended that I learned I had trust issues and he had communication issues (no, he wasn't cheating). It was a relationship doomed to failure without both of us working together to resolve those issues. I now know that for a relationship to really work I have to give my trust to someone who is worthy of that trust. They are worthy if they are willing to communicate openly and honestly with me before it gets to the point they are cheating. Don't try to absolve your behavior by taking the advice of the people who tell you it's ok to snoop just because the answer to your question is more important right now than doing the work to make the relationship truly work. Examine the relationship and work to resolve your issues or let it go and and do whatever it takes to fix your trust issues before getting involved with someone else.
2006-12-20 22:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. So I snooped. Everytime I had this gut feeling that he was doing something he shouldn't have I went thru his stuff: wallet, pants, coat pockets.... Everytime I did, I would find some girl's phone number. We even went on vacation once and I found a girl's room # at the hotel we were staying at. I think snooping is wrong and I won't do it again. But if I wouldn't have found all that stuff we might still be together now. I was glad that I did it to find out what a cheating b@stard he was. I trust my man now and I won't do it to him.
2006-12-21 06:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a no-no to invade is privacy whether you think he's cheating or not. If your guts tell you he is and if you ask him and he's irrational, then listen to your guts. But you have to ask yourself, what is he doing that would make you think he's cheating? Are you sure you're not insecure about yourself.
Before you leap before you look, make sure it's not you. The worst feeling is being wrong about someone and embarassing yourself in the process.
2006-12-21 05:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would hire a private investigator cause he might be covering up his tracks to make you think hes not. A P.I. will find out everything. They take pictures, they follow him everywhere and do all sorts of stuff to find out the truth. Whatever you do dont have sex with him I repeat DON'T have sex with him. If you think he is cheating and you have sex with him he could possibly give you an STD or AIDS. Good luck to you. and Merry Christmas and Happy New Year too!
2006-12-21 05:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could snoop..but he might just be fantastic at hiding "it". I think the more important question is to ask yourself do you want to be committed to someone that you can't completely trust. This might be a great "New Years Resolution"..dump the dead weight! Good luck bella
2006-12-21 05:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by aroundtheom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is that your only reason? Hmmm, holiday season, snooping around.. hmmm whadda you think? Remember when it comes to things think of a number of reasons not just one. And only time will tell if you're right or not.
2006-12-21 05:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
irrational - from a main point he cheatin
hes phones propb always on silent innit?
lol
boy a girls are basttards
y dnt u somne cheat with me n get even?
im V nice(not an old man, but young vampire)
2006-12-21 05:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Trend Vampire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the situation right now so I know exactly how you feel I don't know what to do but have you heard that Keisha Cole's song I should have cheated?
2006-12-21 05:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dion O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not trust him has he given you any reason not too? I mean if he has then Yes, snoop but be careful.
2006-12-21 05:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by lithdailums7@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think it and you already looking over and trying not to invade his privacy. you already know the answer. when you sit alone in your room you will answer your own question. and you should know that the answer is yes he is.
2006-12-21 05:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋