i am in a rough spot here and i want some help. i was seeing a guy for about two weeks. i got pregnant the first night we were together. i am 26 he is 28. he has one 8yr. old son, not at home. i have two boys,5 and 3. he thinks its best to terminate the pregnancy, i don't, but i am not out to "trap" him. if he wants nothing to do with the baby, and can't give it what it needs i am willing to live with that rather than end the pregnancy. how much should i take into consideration of what he wants, mainly cause its bad timing and he cant be there right now in anyway shape or form?
2006-12-20 21:13:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that his opinion is not significant in this case. If you feel you want this baby,(which you should), then what is there to think about? There is this saying, where three people eat, four can eat as well! Keep your baby honey, you won't regret it. It is a blessing! God does things for a reason, don't intefere with his plan, especially if you know what you what anyway!
2006-12-20 21:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by katiesmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how torn you feel. And even though it is not the best decision for him,it is not his body. This is a life. Keep your baby. If he did not want this situation to happen he should have taken precautionary measures,he did not! You are not trapping him so do not feel this way. This same situation happened to me and the father felt the same way. He acted out about half my pregnancy wanting nothing to do with me or the baby. But by the time it came for birth he ws in the room. My daughter is now 3yr. old and he gets her every other wknd and loves her to death! the main reason they do this is b/c they are scared,not really b/c they dont "want" it. Congrats on your pregnancy!
Good Luck!
2006-12-20 21:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Shampaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't terminate if you don't want too. It's his loss. Guys are idiots. You should give that baby the chance at a great life, that's the only life it will ever have. and you or him don't have the right to take it away. It will never have it again. Give it up for adoption. But think about how much you value your life. Would you want someone to have the power to abort you. Yes it's unknowing of what it can have. But still that's not right. This is his/her only chance to have what we all have. And I think if you were stupid one night, then don't take it out on the baby. Its your fault so deal with it. i know you want to keep it and i think you are doing the right thing. Screw him, don't let him talk you into something you might regret.
2006-12-20 21:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in a tough spot. First of all and most importantly it is your body and you have the last say to what will happen with your pregnancy. Secondly, there is no one to protect the rights of the child you are carrying therefore again you speak for that child's right to live.
You said you have to young sons, ages 3 and 5. I bet you just adore them. Think how your life would be if you had aborted them. Whatever decision you make the dad will have to live with it.
2006-12-20 21:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by r_a_i_n_m_a_n_5_9 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if he does not want anything to do with the baby yet you do. Then You have Your baby and give your baby Your last name, and tell the hospital that you do not know who the father is and do not even put him on the birth certificate. His problems solved, and You should have no problems in the future, when he realizes that he made the worst decision of his life!
2006-12-20 21:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one - it should be more about what u want because you carry the child and are, ultimatly, the childs primary carer for several months while you breastfeed etc.
he will have to pay child support if you decide to split up as it is half his responsibilty - your not trapping him, you just have enough sense not to terminate an innocent baby.
think about how this will affect your life more than his, you already have two young children, could you cope being a single mother to three??
next time, be more careful if you don't want things like this to happne.
good luck to you and the baby
2006-12-20 21:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by вℓαмє_¢αиα∂α 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ultimately your choice. Do what your heart tells you. If you're going into it with your eyes wide open, and don't try to pretend that he's going to be Daddy, go ahead and have the baby. He can't force you to do anything you don't want to do. Think about it before you make any decisions, maybe talk to a counselor, or another person you trust. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 21:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by bon b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to suck it up. If he can put his penis in some one. He is old enough to take care of a child. I think he just doesn't want the responsiblity. Its your decision. your body. he might end up leaving you. My ex's auncle was dating some one for one month. she become pregnant.. they've been married for 5 years now. c'mon. I don't. don't allow him to make the decision. Later on your might regret it.. My sister her gf forced her to get an abortion. she has never lived down the day. the child would of been turning two this year.
2006-12-20 22:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Chikia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your choice..Personally i could not have an abortion..Seems like people say "bad timing"when they choose to abort..to me thats not a good enough excuse..My personal Opinion..Take some time to really think about your decision, Don't do it if its what he wants and "you do not want it" It could be a decision you could regret for the rest of your life..I wish you the best of luck with your decision..
2006-12-20 22:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go ahead and have the baby. If the situation were reversed, and he wanted you to have the baby, and you wanted to abort it, it would be a much tougher question. But, you are doing most of the work, and you are willing to keep doing most of the work. If he wants to be involved, you should welcome it, but if he wants nothing to do with it, go ahead and respect that, too.
It is tough, but I wish you much luck and happiness.
2006-12-20 21:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋