if your wife says no to sex, will you go out and have sex and come home without guilt?
2006-12-20 20:57:09 · 25 answers · asked by adamandeve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, If your wife does not want to have sex with you there is a reason. The reason may not be you it maybe within her. Going out having an affair will not solve the problem it will just make it worse. Sit down and talk with her if necessary go to a therapist. You married her for better or worst correct. Sometimes there is an underlying problem that causes this and you cheating on her will make her problem worse in the end if she was to find out. And if you love her that is now what you want to happen. Sit down have a long conversation if that does not work then tell her that this is really a problem for you and you suggest counseling. People take marriage to lightly these days when you marry someone then you help them and they help you when a problem arises you don't just run out and seek someone else for comfort that is what you have each other for. Good Luck. And Happy Marriage
2006-12-20 21:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never an excuse for adultery. That's just a person trying to justify it. Maybe instead of looking for another piece of tail, focus your efforts on finding out why your wife doesn't want to have sex. Has she always been like this? Is she upset with you? Are you showing her enough attention? Trying to get her in the mood? Or are you just coming home demanding dinner, not washing your *** and jumping in the bed wanting sex?? Usually there is a reason a person stops wanting to have sex, whether emotional or physical. Try and figure it out. If you determine she just doesn't love you anymore, then divorce and move on but don't put the cart before the horse.
2006-12-21 02:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there seems to be some issues where communication is concerned anyway, i mean she has not told you why she is refusing you sex? most times a woman tells you what she feels and thinks. either she is not well and has not come to terms with the situation, she could be having an affair herself or you did something to piss her off and she is getting her back on you but most times if that was the reason she would have told you already.this is now the time to have a good chat and no don't go behind her back you will be more the loser.
2006-12-20 21:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making love is the glue that keeps a relationship together without that it becomes a "friendship" and if you can live with that and you are both happy great. If not speak to each other get some counseling try and work it out. If not get a divorce and start a fresh.
2006-12-20 21:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by 247 SEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt!!! this is a feeling that you get only once and then it is become easy every time you sleep with anyone but your wife. It is still wrong though, I would say talk to her and if it doesn't work see how much you love her.
2006-12-20 21:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by nonickforme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that seems you are just looking for some reason to go out for sex, marriages are not degraded in this manner please, You surely should be asking her the reason and convincing her first of all ok! if this is the really serious problem with your wife and you tried at your level best to agree her for a sex relation and stil she refusing even then you should not go out rather you should discuss this problem with one of your wife friend or her family member mom / sister, and also discuss it with a psychatrist, and am hopeful that you will have positive results in the end if you go on in this way.
wish you very best of luck
2006-12-20 21:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by willy nilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on for how long she has been saying "no" to you. , and depends on what is the reason why she is refusing. Maybe you have some other fights or misunderstanding with her which can explain her behavior... OPEN THE DIALOG with her, before doing anything outside which anyhow will make you feel guilty (you seem to be in advance ! lol...) JUST TALK with her and find where is the problem with you... or with her (might be her only) Good luck !
2006-12-20 21:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of highly moral people on this board I have to say. If it was me and my wife made it clear she wasn't interested in sex, I'd probably look else where. I can't say that I wouldn't feel guilty but I would pursue other options.
2006-12-20 21:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should try finding out why she does not want sex, talk to her! Don’t go out and have sex with some one else behind her back, its not right!
If she just don’t want sex, you should ask her if she thinks that she can deny you the right to have sex, and if she mind you having sex with some one else. Honesty almost always pays of!
2006-12-20 21:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some men who does not have guilt at all. but mind you, there is always KARMA in everything that we all do may it be good or bad. it will come when you least expect it and it may not be directly to you but can even happen to your family and your loved ones.
2006-12-20 21:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋