2006-12-20 20:28:16 · 21 answers · asked by un_1000 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
be cool.
2006-12-20 20:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Nikhil G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A angry person is a hurt, wounded person.
To have anger something must have happened to make this person so angry. Anger is a basic feeling, everyone feels anger it is only those that can not overcome there anger who are the worst off.
Understanding this one will see things differently when approached by a angry person. If one wants to take the time this angry person will let that person into this thick exterior and one can see this can be a pretty nice person. Just depends if one want to take the time and effort.
Or one can do what everyone else does and dismiss this person, ignore them or smile and treat this person as a sub human without feelings.
2006-12-21 04:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I try to avoid them, but this doesn't always work very well, because sometimes the chronically angry people are members of my family. And, you miss out on a lot of stuff when you hide.
I think the best way to deal with them is to understand that their anger is not necessarily directed at you -- they may think they are angry at you, but they are really blowing up at a father who abandoned them, or a cold mother, or some kid who stole their Twinkie when they were six. Feel sorry for them. Be polite and as kind as you can to them. Ask them, "Why do you say (angry thing)?" or "It seems to me like you are overreacting."
But if they are poison, you have to realize that you need to protect yourself. Cut contact, and do your best to live your life. And make new friends! There are not-angry people out there -- even some who can seem like family.
This is about chronically angry people. If it's just someone blowing up, let them be for now, then go back. Do talk to them about their behavior and your reaction, and let them know you still like them even if they blow up once in awhile. Just that you don't have to put up with it.
2006-12-21 04:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find the best thing is to show the 'you are right attitude' it lets you out of the converstion the quickest, and you walk away unscathed, with your own opinions tucked safely and unchallenged in your mind. the same works for manipultative and nosy people too.. just refuse to play that game, give as little info as possible and let them think they are right. And it is not a lie. After all, is life not merely perception? Your perception and theirs... So in a manner of speaking you are both right... just don't let them know that you are just as right as they are...
2006-12-21 04:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can overlook them.
Sometimes you can ignore them.
Sometimes responding to their anger with reason and calmness is best.
If their anger is directed at you or something you did tell them you won't tolerate their loss of civility; but consider apologizing if their anger is well founded.
If their anger is directed at you but is not well founded work up an equal amount of "steam" and demand they knock it off; otherwise, announce you will not take their foolishness and leave.
If their anger isn't directed at you, but they're showing it in a big way in your presence anyway; either leave or tell them to knock it off.
If all else fails, get good and angry back - only bigger and better.
2006-12-21 04:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that depends on weather there angry to the point of physical valance.i always try the positive attitude
2006-12-21 04:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by double 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either kindness, or a firm 'presentation' that you're standing up against their 'assault'.
As the politically correct (PC) crowd would say, "There's no angry people, or bad people, only people that (sometimes) get angry".
2006-12-21 04:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't sat anything eventually they'll run out of steam and quiet down,then say your vocabulary leaves much to be desired and I will make a note of it but you do get 5 points for form.
2006-12-21 04:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mad Dog Johnson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the best attitude but the best action is avoidance...
2006-12-21 05:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them blow off steam and keep your peace. At the moment they are "boiling water" and you should instead , "reduce the heat" by being silent, so they could simmer and cool down eventually.
2006-12-21 04:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice and mellow. in effect your mood or goodness will rub off on the other person, dont react with anger that will get you know where.
2006-12-21 04:37:38 · answer #11 · answered by disturbedxxcalmness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋