Parents how would you handle it if.....?

Question

If you discovered your children were being touched by their older sister/brother?

Answer 1

Well in my family they covered it up for over 20 yrs

Answer 2

I don't feel this question can be answered without knowing the ages of the kids involved. Toddlers are handled gently with education of right and wrong. If there is an older child touching a much younger sibling, that's a whole different issue. Being touched by an older sibling say 5 years and up can and will cause various sexuality issues as this child is a young adult. Protect and counsel both kids immediately.

Answer 3

dont just look over it it needs to be sorted. my brother "touched" me when i was 7 and i never told my mom because he told me he would kill me if i did. I was so scared all the time if he came near me or anything like that i would leave the room. I still do now. Its taken 9 years for me to trust guys again so dont let it sit. Talk with your children and get professional help.

Answer 4

That is a very tough question. I've got 2 girls so it's less likely. I think a lot of families would cover it up. I know some that have in fact. I think it's important to believe what the "victim" is saying to you but try and talk to the "abuser" in a none judgemental way.

Mostly I'm a pretty relaxed kind of mum but I think that might have freaked me out.

Answer 5

I would have the older child removed form the household, obviously something is wrong and the problem needs to be addressed in a safe and professional environment where the child would not be able to hurt others. along with that you would want to find out what happened to cause your child to act in such an inappropriate fashion. Your older child may be the victim of abuse and needs to be cared for. If this is your personal situation, i am sorry. I am sure you love all your chuildren. The main point is to make sure they are ALL safe!!!

Answer 6

Don't sit on it, the scars that will be left for the future, as you can tell by some of the answers is harsh. Deal with it and deal with it immediately. Address it with the older individual because I am sure that he/she knows what he/she is doing. Counseling or some other type of intervention should be considered because if he/she is doing this to a younger sibling, he/she won't think twice about doing it to some other young child. Please get the help for all concerned.

Answer 7

You need to talk to the children separately & explain that it is OK to tell you if anyone touches them. No one has the right to touch them in the private areas. They also have no right to touch anyone either. They need to scream "NO DON'T TOUCH".
Look carefully at how your child act around each other & never leave them alone again,get the toucher help ASAP !

Answer 8

This is very touchy to talk about to the kids in public and get their a.. kicked. I would advise that you get the boys/girls to sleep in different rooms and watch over what they do. The one doing the touching apparently has issues, but nothing out of reach to handle. Just try to get closer to that person and if they can't get a boy/girl friend, then help them out by boosting their self-confidence and maybe encourage them to go out to parties and stuff with their friends.

Answer 9

I guess if he or she were old enough to know what they are doing is wrong, I would get them help.
If they didnt know any better and because sexual curiosity is normal, sibling or not- you sit them down and explain its wrong to touch people like that.
You can seek help of a professional how to go about doing that.

Answer 10

How Old are the children?

It would depend on the age and the type of touching.

Answer 11

First I would contact a child therapist and get the older child in, find out where the older child learned this from, whoever taught her/him should be reported to police and keep the siblings away from eachother. No sleeping in the same room. If they are together it needs to be supervised. Deffinately contact a psychologist though.