When you have a best friend and a boyfriend and they do not get along, what do you do?

Question

Do you dump one of them to spend all your time with one or is there some way to resolve the issue. Best friend does not like bf. What do I do?

When we all live in the same building how do you cope? We all eat in the same place and go to the same school? The friend has some problem with the bf. What do I do?

Answer 1

Decisions! Decisions!

First understand that you are only one person with only so little of you to share

Don't expect the two to like each other, don't try and forcing them to be friends

Don't tell either one of them anything negative things about the other - this will keep the love hate thing going

Don't let your man come between you and your friend

Don't let your frined come between you and your man

Demand constant respect from both (your man and your friend)

Never allow yourself to feel guilty when spending time with the other

Duties of a friend: when you were single, it was cool to hang out with your friend and be there for her all the time. But once you have a mate of your own, this does not terminate your friendship.
Your friend should be happy for you if you're happy and she should support and encourage you to work things out with your man. She should be there to guide and support you, rather than pull at you and make you feel guilty for not being with her like you used to.

The duties of your man: Respect your friends. He don't have to like them, but he does have to accept the fact that there are others in your life and they were their before he came along.


I was once in this situation. I lived 50 miles apart from my girlfriend and her friend lived the same apartment complex. I would travel 50 miles one way to be with my girlfriend, but she was too busy entertaining her friends and felt that I was rude because I did not show any interest in her friends. But I respected them as much as they acknowledged me. I would speak when I seen them. They both (two of her friends) were single and miserable and felt that I was there to take her away from them. My girfriend and I were happy one on one, but she felt guilty like she was abandoning her friends. For God's sake, she see them everyday, while I was only coming to visit for two - three nights a week. She couldn't separate the two. I finally told her, that when I come to visit, I do not come to engage with her friends, I come to be with her. I am tired from the traffic and wanted to be alone with her. she couldn't handle this so we broke up. - Sorry this story is about you and not me......

So please learn to balance what is important to you in your life and never allow yourself to be caught in a situation where you have to pick and choose.

Answer 2

How good a friend is she and why doesn't she like ur BF. sometimes when we think we are in love we tend to overlook those so calle dlittle imperfections. Later on we find out that the friend was right and was looking at it from an out siders perspective. Has she ever had a problem with any of your other BF's? You have to really look at the situation. If it turns out that they just have personality differences, then you have to split your time between them.

Answer 3

If your boyfriend ever leaves you, your gonna need a friend to support you, and help you. So it would not be good to dump a friend. Maybe your friend knows this person may not be a good guy for you, and they are just being cautious.
Let your friend know you appreciate the concern, but please give you time to get to know your boyfriend. Then you will decide what to do. If your boyfriend is a good person, then don't let him go. Just see the friend and boyfriend at different times.

Answer 4

If both r precious than i must say u have to maintain a bal b/w friendship n love. Try try and try to solve conflict if failed than i advice u just dont live but take them time to patch up well if they r really human being than 4 ur sake they will resolve the conflict.
Best of luck

Answer 5

u shuld confront ur friend n ask her why she doesnt lyk ur bf.....mayb its a gud reason dat may make u re-think the relationship u r wit da guy if its da kind of relationship u want to have.......but otherwise i wuld go fo da friend coz al i kno is dat puppy luv doesnt last long n by da tyme u breakup wit ur b/f mayb u wil c da reason ur friend didnt lyk him

Answer 6

Just do not go with them at the same time. CAN'T YOU DO THIS ??

Answer 7

dump the friend

Answer 8

if you love your boyfriend, and plan to stay with him and he feels the same to you. stay with him.... IF no love stay friends with friend,,, they are hard to come by,,, true friends that is!