She has a great spirit , she is a poet , she is a very sexy girl , and above all that I love her and wanted to get for a long relationship and even to marry her .
So please tell me what should I do and say to make her love me and be with me , I don't know anything about lesbians .
she is now just a friend as she says .
2006-12-20 19:02:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My heart breaks to read this as I was in love with my best friend for years. I am bisexual, and she was too, so it wasn't that she didn't like women, she just didn't want me.
there is just no pain like unrequited love. nothing compares to this pain, and I'm so sorry. It's so painful when there's someone so wonderful in every way except for one thing. But perhaps you can take some comfort in knowing it has nothing to do with you. And there are women out there who would love to love you, you sound like a great guy, David.
2006-12-20 19:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by jelliclecatharsis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always a risk to let go of what you know for the unknown, but it is one people do everyday in some sense. I would think if you are often times considering her and not solely focused on your boyfriend then you should know something is missing. Maybe talk to her, see what her intentions and desires are then take it from there. You shouldn't have to have someone lined up to break off a current relationship. You shouldn't be with someone just to not be alone, that is not fair to yourself or the other person.
2016-03-29 02:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on.
You can't change anyone except yourself. You can't make anyone love you. She only sees women as sexy, not men.
You can remain friends if you both agree, but as far as anything else goes....it's moot. This should be obvious to you. It's better to break it off for awhile until your feelings for her cool off if you want to remain friends. Otherwise, there are lots of women out there besides her. Date someone else and move forward with your life. You will go no where with her. Be thankful that you know you are capable of loving someone else. There are many people incapable of that. Trust me I know. I was married to one for 14 years.
2006-12-20 19:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by a10cowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two things that you said in your question.
One is true and the other is untrue.
The true thing is that you "don't know anything about lesbians"
The untrue thing is that you "love her"-when someone loves someone they respect who they are, honor them and don't try to change them by "make her love me and be with me" That comment is proof that you don't love her and that you are trapped in a fantasy of your own mind. If you want to love her then accept what is. And if you want to love yourself then accept what is. You will save yourself a lot of long extended grief!
2006-12-20 21:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is like a Gay dude who's in love with a straight guy. If the guy is straight, theirs nothing the gay dude can do. Same to you, she likes chicks, so let her be. respect that.
If it hurts you too much to be around her, you should end the friendship on good terms. Let her know, it's because you love her that you have to let her go.
you never know, maybe she's confused or bisexual, and ends up running after you because of what you said. But don't get your hopes up.
2006-12-20 19:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect her for what she is, a self-confessed lesbian. Even if she marries you, your life wouldnt be happy as she will hang about mostly with her kind. Try to forget her - it is difficult, but not impossible - and look out for someone who is straight. Good luck.
2006-12-20 19:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey. Stay with her as a friend and no more. Move on the find another girl to fall in love with...
2006-12-20 21:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a Lesbian! She likes other women! Let it go! Back off or you will lose her as a friend too!
2006-12-20 20:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do or say to make her change her ways and to love you. best thing for you to do is move on and separate yourself from her. the longer you continue to be around her the more you will hurt. move on and time will heal your heart. good luck.
2006-12-20 19:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by Annette G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone love you. If that is who she is, let her be. Don't try to push it, because you may just end up getting hurt even more in the end.
2006-12-20 19:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by xorestes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋