I recently started going to this new gay bar that has a bit more of a leather and blue collar scene, and somewhat more cruisey than most gay bars. I've never really seen women there, it's basically a men's bar. Now my female friend insisted on coming with me one night, she said she hates going to straight bars becuase she gets unwanted attention by the men and doesn't get that from gay men. Now, after she had a few drinks she started carrying on, and getting loud, and it seemed to me, it was because she wasn't getting attention. The men there were looking to meet other men, and nobody would really talk to her. And I got a few dirty looks from guys for bringing her there. And finally the bartender 'suggested' we leave. Now I want to go back to this bar tomorrow night, they are having a party and it's probably going to be a bit raunchy. How can I tell my friend she is not welcome? She is the type of person to show up anyway, even if I said I was going alone. How do I keep her from going?
2006-12-20 18:38:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Simple, don't tell her your going! If she asks what you are doing tell her you are undecided and will let her know if and when you make up your mind. If she doesn't like that answer then I would suggest that you need to look at your relationship with this person as they sound a LITTLE NEEDY!
2006-12-20 18:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by trishyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her that you are going...and if she finds out tell her she's not invited...and if she shows up tell her off. She doesn't really sound like the type of friend that you need. I've never been with anyone who was asked to leave a gay bar because they were carrying on.
2006-12-20 19:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is the best policy. Do you really need a friend who is a loud mouthed, pushy, sloppy drunk? No.
Let her know that if she wants to go anyway, she is on her own. You don't really need her kind of aggravation. She may not like gay men because they don't hit on her but because she thinks she can push them around.
2006-12-20 19:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eyour friend is curious but she could wind up getting your *** kicked if she starts nouthihg off to her friends and Every girl in her circle will want to gawk and go ewwwwwww; Tell her she isnt comming. you took her once and it didnt go well
offer to take her to a movie.........its too hard to meet the right guy with your little nosy sister-type hanging around making a pest out of her self or trying to convert the cute ones.then tell her to read all your answers and knock it off...you are not going to the zoo.............abd that is how she sees your club
2006-12-20 18:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly you will have to lie and tell her your not going or tell her explicitly that you wish to go alone to get fisted in the back room without her knowledge LOL just jokkin.... However if you really want to.... go to a diff. bar with her earlier in the evening and then go your seperate ways earlier so you can still go to your bar without her..... you know it gets really good after 11:30 anyways!!!! =) hope that helps
2006-12-20 18:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by qcdon30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her your not sure if your going or not. have the bartender meet her at the door and tell her because of her behavior the last time she is barred out for however long. make sure you do talk to the bartender because she will show up. that's the best i can do and it should work. thanks
2006-12-20 18:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KICK HER OUT SHE SOUNDS AW FULL AND VERY MISBEHAVING:LET HER GO.
AND NEVER TELL HER YOU ARE GOING .
MISS BEHAVING SHOULD LOOK FOR PLEASURE ELSEWHERE.
SHE IS DEFINITELY UNWANTED THERE
THEY WILL KICK YOU OUT FOR GOOD IF SHE GETS BACK THERE.DON'T SPOIL IT FOR YOURSELF:GET RID OF THE HAG.
GREETINGS ROB:BEEN IN THE SAME SITUATION.:NOT FUNNY AT ALL.
2006-12-20 18:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like if she wants atttention she will get it she better stay out of there thet might turn her out she might like it stick to your own kind
2006-12-20 18:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by lynn m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋