What should I do?

Question

My husband and I are having a real hard time on deciding what to name our unborn son. He wants to name him Shawn. I want to name him Jaden. I've proposed Jaden Shawn to him, but he wants it to be Shawn Jaden if anything else. The reason he wants Shawn as the name is because one of his bestfriends passed away this past April to a car accident and that was his name. I never knew the guy. Only met him once. It's like I am being forced to name my son a name I don't even like. I don't like the name Shawn. (no offense to anyone who's name is shawn) This is my son too, and I don't know about having another anytime soon. He said if his friend never passed away, he wouldn't even have considered naming our son that. Not only that, our relationship is on a rocky road. My mom said to respect my husband's wishes I should name his Shawn Jaden.. and then just call him Jaden. But I don't like Shawn. What about my wishes? Eh.. Does somebody have any good advice. Some I'd like to hear?

Answer 1

Jaden Shawn sounds better. Why don't you tell you husband lets add your name to the shawn with a hypen then you and your friend will be connected and freinds forever, example: Jaden Shwan-Peter ?(surname)

Answer 2

I would say name him Shawn Jaden, it sounds better that way (personal opinion). I think it sounds more melodic than Jaden Shawn. Yes, I do think its a bit unusual to name a baby after someone you've never really known, but I'd say, as a tribute to his friend, maybe you should think about naming him Shawn Jaden. I mean it does take equal partnership to create the baby, so maybe name him like your husband suggests, and then just call him Jaden as a nickname... after all, your child will eventually do that, drop one name or the other, when they get old enough anyway... in school, or with friends. That way you have the best of both worlds - your husband gets the name Shawn Jaden, as he likes... and it will be the baby's legal birth certificate name... and you can still call him Jaden. But as I said, this is all personal opinion. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

I like the name Jaden I am not a big fan of Shawn either.. explain to your husband that you dont really like the name and you never really got to know his friend so it would be a little weird on your part.. i think Jaden Shawn is a cute name.. Your husband should respect your wishes also.. maybe you both choose a different name if neither of you agree and pick something you agree on..

Answer 4

I am one of those girls who would always dream about baby names. BTW my 18 y.o. is Jenna. The name Jaden gets under my skin. I don't know where it came from and why people are inflicting it on their babes but it simply is not pleasant. Every little Jaden I have met has been a demon child.

The name Shawn has nothing wrong, except you don't like it. But you might want something more unique, hence, Jaden. Since you don't like the name Shawn, don't even consider it! You have a good arguing point when you said he wouldn't have named the baby Shawn prior to his friend's death. Now come up with something better.

I saw some nice names listed here. Jagger is similar to Jaden only nowhere as negative. Sorry I don't want to offend lovers of Jaden. or is it Jaded? Be thoughtful of this very important gift you bestow on your babe.

If you have a girl...name her Shawnie!

My lil' one is Sunny. It fits her perfectly!

Answer 5

This is a very tough call. A compromise is due here and you are unwilling to give in and so is he and in that way no one gets anywhere; someone has to give in.
Please do not look at it as you are being forced, take a more honorable approach, one that will put you in the hierarchy of respect and dignity.
Just give in, not because "oh well, might as well give him his way." No because you would be strong and you would be honorable. People who make very tough sacrifices for a very good reasons are strong and honorable people.
Perhaps you could combine the names into one. Shawn-Jaden
Shawn-Jaden Kelly ?
Shawn-Jaden Michael ?
Shawn-Jaden Corey ?
Shawn-Jaden Rhys (Reece) ?
It doesn't really matter in the long run does it?
Besides Jenna, your husband didn't go right up to his best bud and say would you please die for me so I can name our son after you and then we can get into this huge row.
Give the guy some slack. Most of all give yourself some slack.
Your pregnancy should be a time of joy.

Answer 6

I am sure that when this unborn child gets some age on him...what if he doesn't like hisname..what will he think when he understand that he was given the name of a deceased person. This child has a rights to. I am certain your husband cared for this friend...but you can't make him live on by giving his name to a baby. Close families sometimes keep a name or middle name in the family or an initial.You do not like the name Shawn...then to have to name your child Shawn and then for the rest of your life call him Shawn. The two of you need to both think of the child first, not what one wants and the other wants

Answer 7

I dunno what to tell you really. If I was in your situation I'd give in. I love my husband to no end and if it meant that much to him I'd go with Shawn Jaden and then just call him Jaden if nothign else. Obviously your husband was close to this friend. It really means somethign to him. I dont like the name Shawn either though lol. If you are ok with Jaden Shawn then why is Shawn Jaden different?? It will still be there....come to a compromise. Dont let your unborn child have his parents divorce cuz of his name. Nice way to welcome him to the world. Work on your marriage and give in a bit. You could keep trying to pressure the Jaden Shawn thing I guess but dont hurt your hubbys feelings.

Answer 8

I think its nice to name your son after the deceased friend, but Jaden Shawn sounds better. Also, it doesn't matter that whether Shawn comes first or second - its still a tribute. Its important to have a name that both parents like because you'll be using it a lot.

Answer 9

Well it obviosuly means a lot to your husband. Maybe name him Shawn jaden, and call him Jaden. A lot of people in my family go by middle names, (irish tradition). The name Shawn means something to your your husban. Does the name Jaden mean something to you, or is it just a name you like?

Answer 10

I love the name Jaden and Shawn put together. I personally like Jaden Shawn. Tell your husband how you feel about this. Maybe he will understand. I totally agree with you, it's your baby too. But you guys need to work it out. Hope you work it out, and congrats!


Happy Holidays!

Answer 11

My neighbors name is Jaedyn but shes a girl. I think its nice that your husbond wants to name your child after his friend that died. I would try to pick another name you both agree on and have the middle name be Shawn-Jaden or Jaden-Shawn.