How do i ask my husband to change this cycle withouth hurting him. I mean i always wanted these two names for my boy but since who knows when his family named the first son of a son the same name of his father and i dont really like that, how do i make him change his mind? How do we name our son another name that is not what his familys been doing for so long? I dont wanna be mean or anything i just think if we both dont agree on a name is not good.What should i do?
2006-12-20 18:17:34 · 8 answers · asked by Alex P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
This is tough. If it wasn't a family name it would be alot easier to argue your point. Just letting him know is all you can do. Tell him he can have the second boy to name that. That way you get what you want and if a second boy doesn't come along... you still get what you want. :) Good luck.
2006-12-20 18:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by queenbuck79 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would tell him you don't like the idea and would like to think of other names. Be Honest and Open. Your feelings on the matter are just as important as his.
My sister uses her sons middle name as she didn't like her husbands choice for first name. The birth cirtificate states dads choice but family and friends call him by his middle name.
Personally, if there ends up not being any middle ground on this it is not worth a fight over, let it go.
2006-12-21 07:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share. Let him do the first name and you the middle. That is what my husband and I did with our third child. Its not fair for either of you to do the entire name and leave the other one out. For my first child, my middle name was passed down (family thing) and the first name was something we both liked. Our second child is a Jr. I love my husband's full name and asked him if we could use it for the baby. However you do it, sharing is key!
2006-12-21 03:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is all about compromise. Let your husband take the first name this time and you can get the middle name. For the next child, you get the first name and he gets the middle name. Its not worth creating tension in your marriage over a name.
2006-12-21 02:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. The child's first name can follow family tradition and his middle names can be whatever you choose. Also, just because his first name is the family name doesn't mean that's what you have to call him by. Just say you're calling him by his middle name so there's no confusion.
2006-12-21 02:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I suggest you talk to him about it. You are married. I talk to my husband all the time. Why be affraid fo your husband.??? He will understand if you say "it just isnt waht I really wanted..cant we decide on somethign different together?" If he doesnt then he is selfish. I dont think that you are selfsih for not wanting this. I hated the idea of naming my son after my husband...he asked if we could but he knew it botehred me and he knows how much I love him and that I wasnt doing it to hurt him or his family. Just talk. Communication is the key.
2006-12-21 02:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could use it as a middle name, or as a first name and call your son by his middle name or you could even have 3 names and use a hypen....
Zachary David-Ethan Jones
My dad's name is David (as my grandfather is too) but I am not too fond of David..so with our next son we are going to use it with another name so we still follow tradition, but put a little modern spin on it too.
Good luck and congrats!
2006-12-21 08:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by swanseaemtgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel.. its a 50/50 deal you both need to compromise... maybe telling him you've always had a dream for your babys 1st name and hopefully agree that your second boy have his family name. it might not work but you can try =)... maybe he doesn't like the name either and just needs you to stand up for it bye saying no way... gosh my sister almost named her son frank and all i said to the dad was you don't even like the name you go bye your middle name.. how can you do that to your child... luckily he named their boy Bryan.... and all it took was someone saying no way that name sucks!!!!! try it if he gets mad he cant stay mad at you forever.. after all its your baby too... hope it all works for you guys
2006-12-21 02:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋