right now hes head over heels.... but ive seen SOO many couples that after several years of marriage, and children, they become so BLAH and not romantic at all.... does romance exist for long married couples as well? how so?
2006-12-20 18:11:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't expect every day to be the best day ever. there will be good and bad days, but if you respect your husband, and don't try to undercut him, you should be OK. There's more to it, but those are my two bits.
2006-12-20 18:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by laboratory.mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 14 years. It may not seem like a long time to some people, but in this day and age it is an eternity. relationships take work. You will be in love as long as you put forth the effort. If you are starting off your re;ationship with a strong foundation and common likes, you will always have something to talk about. The problems come when you stop having things to talk about. communication is KEY. Keep talking to each other and the love will be there for a long time.
2006-12-20 19:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he falls out of love with you there is not a whole lot you can do to stop that---That means he was never your best friend--and warm blanket on a cold winter night--and your knight in shining armor--the thing is that men have to always feel needed--fixing the little things you might could do yourself but ask them anyway--go out at least once or twice month and have a cocktail or dinner--ask how his day went when he gets home--make a fuss over him when he gets out of the shower (tell him wow you smell great) , Get excited when he calls from work--tell him you so look forward to his calls--Hug and smooch him everyday you leave each other for work--and when you get home too---take walks together--have at least one hobby you two do together--like bowling or such--Find a spot like the coast or whatever and make it a yearly get away for your anniversary --Dance always dance when you have the opportunity to sway slowly to a sweet song--Pinch his butt--(why let the guys have all the fun!!) There are so many ways to keep the fire and romance in a marriage--but more important than all of that is that one day you will realize that you and he are like that favorite pair of slippers --you know the one that make you feel completely comfortable--That's Love---the forever lasting love--
2006-12-20 18:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need to sit down and do some serious talking. Really get to know each other before you go any further in your relationship and please don't judge your future life on what others are going through.
There shouldn't be a marriage unless both people love each other very much and want to spend the rest of their lives together. If he's the only one who feels this way - then there shouldn't be a marriage until you feel the same way and if you don't then don't get married.
2006-12-20 18:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to Gary Chapman in his book entitled "The Five Love Languages," sexual contact/personal touch is only one of the five ways to fill your love tank. He says that over time, married couples need to refill their love tanks with several of the other love languages in order to rekindle the sparks in both the husband and wife. It's a good read for single committed couples too because love is a universal language and can be expresses in many ways. Maybe there are more than five? Anyway, read this simple book with your fiance and/or your husband. It would have helped my marriage, had it lasted and will probably help my next one to make it my last one.
2006-12-20 18:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most married men it is the same boring story. My wife nags me all the time. My wife puts the kids and the house ahead of me. My wife does want to have sex anymore.
Men are really simple:
1. We want to be appreciated for what we do contribute. We bust our butts everyday at the office but a lot of wives consider this to be something basic like breathing air and they don't appreciate what we do.
2. We want to not be nagged for every little thing. We're not perfect. We know that. You knew that when you married us. Your not perfect either. Unless it is something really, really important - accept us.
3. We need to feel loved and, yes, that requires physical affection. Our lives are almost totally without affection. That's a big reason that we married you. Now, after a few years and a few kids, you decide it's too much work. That makes us feel totally and absolutely rejected.
Do that and we will slay dragons for you.
2006-12-20 18:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for 30 years now and they are still crazy in love.For what I've seen and what I believe,if a your husband to be is head over heels about you and asked you to marry him,you have nothing to worry about.Marriage is hardwork honey and it comes from both sides.All I can say is keep him busy enough and make loads of time for him.I'm pretty much sure you'll keep him happy no matter what.Congrats!Believe you'll have a great life together.
2006-12-20 18:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by cotto96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust and communication is the best way to maintain long lasting marriage. Both of you will be bond together thru trust. Change and grow together thru communication. Romance is the spices for ALL marriages. So make sure you remember to spice it. It really takes alot of effort and time to building a blissful marriage.
Congrats!
2006-12-20 18:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, romance still exist for married couples. your perception of romance may change down the road once you get caught up with routines and the never ending "to do" list. but cheer up! romance is a completely different experience in marriage. Its so much more fulfilling and uplifting. you just have to remember to keep things light. humour eachother. and as much as humanly possible, share everything with him. absolutely do not go to bed angry. give one moment everyday to show how much you appreciate him... afterall, you may never know when it'll be your last.
sorry i came off cheesy. but trust me, it works.
2006-12-20 18:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by sansa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let life become so overwhelming that you forget to take the time to pay attention to each other, with no distractions. It's difficult sometimes, but a must. Simply doing that will increase the longevity of your love by untold amounts.
2006-12-20 18:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it exists. A very good piece of advice is to be secure with yourself and your marriage. You love eachother apparently and you don't want to lose him. But, insecurities push men away. (Asses) So, you just have to make sure you communicate, you are honest with eachother, try new things, keep things alive. And you CAN last. Good luck!♥
2006-12-20 18:14:43 · answer #11 · answered by DiVenanzo™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋