I dont feel like meeting people,i witdrawn myself from people,have such phobias after many incidents being backstabbed,i just cant see whats the point...people are the same eveywhere,gossipings and it makes me stress,crazy,somtimes i like to be alone feel better but they told me to socialized but i still cant see the benefits when being aorund them.How would u deal with it?
2006-12-20 17:56:59 · 8 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure I really understand your question or your situation but I will say this.... Not ALL people are idiots!! In fact, many truly care without wanting anything back and without gossiping, judging, or stabbing you in the back!
I know I'm like that. I just wish I understood better so I could help more!
2006-12-20 18:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by ngfl44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody goes through that feeling every now and then, you have to keep in mind that not all people are the same, and not all people can be your friends.
I think one or two good friends is all what you need, and you can tell from the minute you meet if you will get along or not.
Don't avoid people, but do not go too close, cause you will always be shocked by them.
I think that your feeling will go soon, just be you, and I'm sure you will meet the right friend who will help and support and understand you.
Good luck
2006-12-21 02:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, and the best thing to do is do what makes you feel better. The key of it is keep that people there in their place and dont be too close, dont be rude just do be friends, dont tell them anything that is really important, tell them what everybody else know. Meet other people, not everybody is the same. Trust me on this. You need to start choosing right and it shouldt take too long to discover good people or distinguish bad from good. think positive and positive things will come to you. Good luck
2006-12-21 02:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Alex P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that there is such thing as real friendship, which you obviously haven't discovered yet, and go about making new friends. Join a dart or bowling league. Set some standards for the type of people you will and wont have in your life and stick to it. It's your life afterall. You are in charge of your own happiness and you don't owe anyone anything.
2006-12-21 02:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from and I have learnt to choose my friends very carefully. Just try to turn off to the gossip and refuse to participate in it. Do try to socialise as you will just withdraw further if you dont. Being social doesnt mean that you have to get involved with the backstabbing, but you need to keep your skills at dealing with people as if you dont then you start to have real problems.
I myself learnt the hard way that what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.
2006-12-21 02:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't get out and socialize with people, then be prepared to live a lonely life. There are lots of great people out there that you're missing out on getting to know.
2006-12-21 02:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe its that your just really shy.. i know i am.. thats why i feel good talking on the internet cause i never see anyone face to face..maybe if you could just try meeting someone even i you just feel shy about it just try.. and if you mess up just have a laugh..
2006-12-21 02:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Usagi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find out let me know.
2006-12-21 01:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by kelly_420_brian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋