My baby is 3 days old, how fo you get over the constant fear that something may go wrong? Need sleep?

Answer 1

You NEVER get over the fear. Never. Just wait until it's sixteen and after its birthday party, it wants the car keys and go off driving by itself. You don't sleep that night, either. (It gets better. Big secret of newborn parenting: You must sleep when the baby does. For two whole weeks. The entire household must fall into that sleep cycle for a couple of weeks. Then, it'll slowly settle down into more tolerable family rhythms. Most sincere congratulations to you and your family on your new angel.

Answer 2

Maybe I am just a paranoid mom, but I still have that feeling and my son is now about to turn three in April. I worry that a pedophile will come through his window and steal him, I worry he will find a way outside the house( he is Autistic and we live on a busy street. The two definitely do not mix. Especially because my son is Houdini's reincarnate) or even that he will roll out of bed and bump his head or pull the bookshelf on top of himself. I worry constantly. I know that this is not rational. However, it is my job to protect him and this just comes with the territory. Even though I am a walking nerve, and I hate the feeling of being so anxious, I wouldn't trade it for anything. He is my entire life and the reason I am so anxious is because I love him so much that I couldn't possibly imagine life without him. That feeling is as wonderful as it is scary. I watched my mom and dad suffer the loss of a child. My brother died at the age of six from a brain tumor. And though my mother couldn't possibly have protected him, she still blames herself for not doing enough. I know that no matter how much I worry and try to protect him, there will always be something I have no control over. A skinned knee, the flu whatever. That doesn't take away the worry though. My best advice is just to sleep when he is asleep, because I do think that once you become a parent, there is no such thing as agood night's sleep. But as your baby's sleep cycle regulates over the next few months, you will learn to get by on less. In the beginning, If i got four or five consecutive hours, I was ecstatic. Buckle up because you are in for a wild and bumpy ride, but it will also be the most wonderful and rewarding ride of your life. Congratulations on your new baby.

Answer 3

LOL! Ask your mother--it never goes away. Do you think your own parents don't worry that something might "go wrong" with you--like a terminal illness or car accident, or perhaps just losing your job and being unable to find another one? The Johnsons commercial is right--having a baby does indeed change everything. You worry because you care about your child--and I sincerely hope you never stop doing that!
Also, keep in mind that, as much as you might want to catch him/her every time s/he stumbles, sometimes you just have to let her fall so she learns not to step that way again--and I mean that literally and figuratively. Obviously you don't let her brain herself on the corner of the fireplace if you can help it (or get into drugs or whatever), but it won't kill her to skin her knees once in a while. Congratulations on the new baby.

Answer 4

I had the fear that my baby would just stop breathing and I was also scared of SIDS. First of all I placed my baby in our bedroom in a bassinett right next to our bed for the first 3 months. I could hear any noise he made. As a mom you kind of get a sixth sense where you can wake up to even the smallest noise. My husband still has not gained that sense... wonder why? Okay on a serious note we also bought what is called the Angel Care monitor. It is a baby monitor that has a sensor on it. You place it under your childs crib or bassinett and it detects their breathing. If at anytime your child were to stop breathing for 15 seconds an alarm sounds. You can also set it to make a tick sound everytime it detects movement of any kind. The alarm will also pick up your baby's sound so you can hear him if you are in another room. You can set it to only pick up only sound or movement if you like. I set mine to pick up both. It really gave me peace of mind that if my child had a problem I would know. Now that he is 5 months and in his own room we still use the monitor. It has a parents unit that you put in your room. I could not have lived without this. You can buy it at Babies R Us or I have seen them online. It runs about $100 dollars but it is completely worth it. Congrats on beings a new mommy!

Answer 5

I went through the same thing 5 weeks ago.. I swear I checked my son 100 times the first day we had him to make sure he was still breathing!
I think it is a state of shock or denial that YOU really do have the ability to create another living thing!
Oh it's so scarey those first few days.. But you will sleep again.
Is the baby sleeping in the bedroom with you? I know it's contriversial but I co sleep with my baby and it makes breast feeding so much easier for both of us, We both sleep alot more during the night AND I can still check him 100 times a night to make sure he is ok!
Co-sleepers are super handy!
Welcome to parent-hood... you will cope and your baby with be just fine!

Answer 6

LOL! Welcome to being a parent. There is always something that can go wrong, and you want to protect your baby. The world is suddenly a very scary place. My baby is almost 4 months - I don't think you ever really get over worrying, but it does get better as the baby gets older and stronger.

If you are ever worried about something in specific, call the doctor to put your mind at rest.

Answer 7

You will always think that, even when they're 30 years old! If you keep worrying about it, it will make you sick.. Just do your best.. I had absolutely no experience with babies, when I had my son.. I catch myself freaking out sometimes, worrying about something going wrong.. When you're so uptight, your baby will sense that.. You need to keep things as stress free as possible... Just focus on all the smiles, the laughs, the first steps, the first words and the first days of everything, you'll experience as time goes on!

Answer 8

Awwwww :O) congradulations! Can you get a house guest for a couple weeks who will stay up & keep a watch over baby while you sleep. Like a best friend or family member that doesnt have a job or anything important to do,,lol.We all know someone like that.Maybe you can offer them some cash like a babysitting job.

Answer 9

You never get over that fear... At least I haven't! My daughter is 3 and I still go in her room every night before I go to bed to make sure she is okay. It's just part of being a loving, concerned parent...however, the fear will lessen over time and you'll be able to eventually sleep again! I wish you and your family the best of luck and may angels watch over your bundle of joy every night! :o)

Answer 10

My daughter is 22 years old and I still worry about her when she goes out with friends or goes out of state. A mom never stops worrying. If you need sleep, sleep when the baby is taking its naps. If you don't start getting rest, you will get sick and that won't be good for your baby. Don't worry if your house is messy, don't worry if the dishes are sitting in the sink, don't worry if the laundry is not getting done, rest.