2006-12-20 17:12:18 · 20 answers · asked by trisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put yourself in his wife's shoes for a moment. How would you feel if someone was doing this to you?
2006-12-20 17:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm trying to make sure I understand your question since the words are not exactly presented as correct English. You are in love with a man who is divorced? Is he separated? Is he still married? Saying that he does not love his wife anymore does not mean he is divorced. If he is still married then there is nothing you can do. You just have to back off and let him do his thing. You shouldn't stand in the way of a family trying to figure things out. If he is divorced, then you need to understand that it takes at least one year after the divorce for a person to go through the stages of being divorced, including denial, anger, sadness, etc. They need this time to recover and heal. In some cases, they never heal. If he does not want to remarry because of what the kids might say then he is probably using the kids as a reason for you to back off and not get involved or take it too far. It sounds like he is not in the same place you are. Just because you are in love with him that does not mean he is in love with you or that he has healed from his divorce yet. You need to give him time.
2006-12-20 17:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by achristian520 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, if I've heard that line once I've heard it 1,000 times. Married men (and women for that matter) should come up with something more original.
Know this, he's in the marriage he's in because he wants to be there. As far as loving her, I'm not sure people like this man can truly love anyone. A man that cheats is thinking only of himself. Even if he cares, he doesn't care enough for anyone in his life .... his children, his wife, YOU. If he did he wouldn't risk hurting each of you like he is.
You need to think enough of yourself not to be treated this way. No matter what, you are settling when you shouldn't.
2006-12-20 18:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ruin a family !
Im sure if you were married...and marriage wasnt going very well..you wouldnt want some girl to come steal your husband away.Did you ever think about that?
how would you feel if it was you ? This guy has kids..do you know how much kids suffer when parents split up ?
Do you really want to cause troubles for a family that has the chance to fix their life..you should not interfere ...find yourself a man who is not taken.
And if you dont listen..and you go with this man..and break this family apart..how do you know he wont do the same to you?
2006-12-20 17:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you still drunk??? Why would you ever consider ever believing a man that is married and says he is just at home and married still because of the kids---He is as much of a looser as the gals willing to date him--He is a cheat and a liar--He can not be trusted--A honest person -man or woman -that was done with their marriage would leave and divorce and then after time start dating---
2006-12-20 17:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume that this is what he is telling you. If he did not want to be with his wife he would not be with her. This is just his way of having both of you. He is telling you thay he is only ther e gor the kids and that makes you feel at ease when he is with her because you feel that he has no feelings for her so you know that the relationship cant still be sexual. She might not even know about you and if she does he has told her a story to put her mind at ease as well.
2006-12-20 17:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deal by putting distance between you and him. If he cheats on his current wife, don't you think he will cheat on you too?
If he really loves you then he will file for divorce and some custody of the kids and marry you. Don't be the mistress.
2006-12-20 17:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every married man says that. If he didn't love her, he wouldn't be there. You can take care of your kids even if you aren't there. Plus, wouldn't you be afraid that once you get boring he's going to tell someone else that about you?
2006-12-20 17:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by tll 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Another stupid woman who believes what a married man tells her.Don't you no he only wants you for one thing.Let me guess he can't spend the night with you and he takes a shower before he leaves you and it is always right before two in the morning so he is home by two am:
2006-12-20 17:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your'e better off moving on and leaving this married man alone. Even if he does leave his wife for you, then he more than likely will end up cheating on you.
2006-12-20 17:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋