I just wanna know how you deal with your emotion when you're feeling betrayed, embarrased, taken advantaged of, set up , or whatever it maybe.
Just wanna ask everyone how do you handle it ?
2006-12-20 17:00:57 · 21 answers · asked by JUSS 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i always forgive....but i never forget.....
2006-12-20 17:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain is as much a part of life as happiness is. Without pain, how would we know how great joy is? It's very important to forgive others when they have hurt you. By holding a grude you will only hurt yourself. It's too hard on your body, mind, and spirit and why should you suffer more? Forgive the people that hurt you, and then consider if these losers have a right to still be a part of your life. Remember that you are the victim... They are lucky to even have you in their life. If all you keep getting from a relationship is pain, then that relationship isn't worth saving. Forgive the losers, and move on the betting things.
2006-12-20 17:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I try talking it over with the person who emotionally hurt me. Sometimes it helps bring a sense of closure to the one who was emotionally hurt. If the case was cheating, I dont think you should forgive or forget.. because once a cheater, always a cheater. But if it was something forgiveable.. fogive.. but dont always forget. Hope this helps. Best of Luck!
2006-12-20 17:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by an14341991 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk about it with the other person till you have nothing left to say about it because you should never bring it up again. There really shouldn't be a reason to bring the topic up again. You want to forgive because otherwise it will be mostly too painful otherwise. That is why why we forgive. Hopefully it will not happen again but you cannot worry that it will because it may not. Enjoy life once again and hopefully he will have learnt a lesson.
2006-12-20 17:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its very hard for us to forgive, but then, at least try to forgive and forget the most (thats the challenge for us)
you can feel the lightness in yourself when u do that!
2006-12-20 17:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by DeathNote 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did forgive someone once, because his behavior was unusual for him and he was going through a hard time. But sometimes their behavior is a result of a character defect. For example, I think that a man who cheats is likely to do it again, and certainly a player will always be a player. So I would not go back to that kind of person.
2006-12-20 17:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can forgive but not forget. not forget so it does not happen again. don't hate the person hate the wrong act the person did. don't hold anger its not good for your health. if, you have to stay away for awhile. don't dwell on the matter. do things to keep your mind fixed on other things. its normal your emotions are flying high. i take it you were cheated on or something close to that if you feel betrayed. do not try to pay back. we reap what we sow. what comes around goes around all on its own. take care of yourself and have a happy holiday! thanks
2006-12-20 17:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's natural to feel hurt, and then a lot of other feelings after that, almost the same as the series of feelings that one feels after they have lost someone dear to them.
As with everything time is the only thing that helps and eventually depending on your personality, you may feel that you can forgive them, You may never forget, but it's possible to forgive.
2006-12-20 17:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't do the 'forgive and forget' thing. One strike is all it takes to be out of my life forever. I try to surround myself with positive people. Trust isn't something I give away freely. It has to be earned and if it's broken it's broken till the end of time.
2006-12-21 06:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is given to someone I care about, forgetting is a matter of time and a regaining of trust. If I care deeply they get both, some people may not get either, since I may not have felt that they felt bad for what they did to begin with and therefor they get forgotten.
2006-12-20 17:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it isn't critical it's easy to forgive and forget, if it is life changing, then in can take years, and that really comes from maturity. At some point you ask yourself "do I really want to be defined by this anger and humiliation?" if the answer is No, you don't, you just ease into it.
sweet dreams
2006-12-20 17:06:29 · answer #11 · answered by rynay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋