Hi guys. I love two men. One loves me, but as friends and we've been together for 17 years. We are great friends but that is about it. I met another 3 months ago. The second one, well he blew me away and we met 2000 miles from both our different homes (and it was the same for him cause he talks to people we both know and they tell me all the time). He talks about me to the people we both know but refuses to talk directly to me (even though we need to on occasion, for business). Personally, I think about him all the time (the 2nd one) and miss him terribly. I need advice. Please don't make me feel bad here; I feel bad enough without anyone criticitizing me. Love the first, but am lonely in the relationship and have tried more times than I can tell you to fix and think about the second one daily.
2006-12-20 16:47:35 · 12 answers · asked by gwynn_sag 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't try to tell you who to chose. It sounds like you already know who you want. Just remember, you always want what you can't have. Everyone loves a challenge. Keep that in mind. If this man who lives so far away decided to make a go of your relationship, how long would you really be happy. Love is very valuable and doesn't come along everyday. You search your whole life to find someone who will reciprocate your love and you've already found him. good luck
2006-12-20 16:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the one that YOU love. It doesn't matter how far or how close you are in miles. It matters how far or how close you are in relationship. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. Just sharing my opinions. If you think about the second one, than go for him! Love doesn't have anything to do with physical stuff. It's whats inside your heart. Your feelings. Hope you like my advise! Good luck!
2006-12-20 16:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Misaki K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would pick the friend, the one you've known for a long time 17 years. There's nothing more special than 2 great friends getting together =)
forget the one that you met 2,000 miles away, he's too far, what can you possibly establish with someone you barely see?
2006-12-20 16:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry any of them right now. Think to whom U can tell about the other one ? To whom U can confess everything smoothly ? Then remains the question, whom of them love U more ? If U choose the 1 who loves U more, will benefit U in the Ego-zone, choosing the 1 whom U love more will benefit U in ur Heart zone. Easier ?
2006-12-20 16:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by anw_esha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being with the second man for a while, on the side. You want to make sure your feelings continue before jumping off into the unknown.
2006-12-20 23:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you like the second one better. Well it's about the choice to be with the one you like or to be with the one who like you, which do you prefer. most of the people will say it's going to be more happier with the one who love you, but the choice is yours to make. Just follow your own heart and let the time decide.
2006-12-20 17:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think 3 months is long enough to determined you want to end your 17 year marriage i think you were lonely and just seek what you wasnt getting at home i think you should try to work out the marriage and even if if dont work dont rush into anything longterm that soon
2006-12-20 16:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by lamli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would ask u to know what u really want ,coz look girl u cant love 2persons or want to be with both dr,this is so weird. know wat ur seek then perhaps someone will be able to help u,coz i think u have to decide no one would be in a position to say choose this or that one.u say ur lonely but u deserve to be coz u cant make a choice,ur complicating things
2006-12-20 16:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to make you feel bad but you are in for a rude awakening.
2006-12-20 17:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy! go for the one that "LOVES YOU or show you affection. Reread what you wrote and I think you will make the wise decision.
2006-12-20 16:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋